Fear of infertility

[wingingit123]

We are considering a second baby but the fear of everything we went through the first time & the really dark place I was in holds me back! Has anyone else been in that position? I'm just so worried that I'll become depressed again and feel like it's easier to not try

I would love a second child too but it took 6.5 years of heartbreak and like you been in d
Some dark places on that long journey.
We have decided that if we get a second miracle one day I.e. conceive naturally again then fab but if that never happens and our wonderful daughter is a one-off then we will make the best and enjoy every single day with her as we already do without longing for another. I can't face any more treatment s or that emotional rollercoaster that goes with it ever again! We have no eggs or
embryos frozen so it would be starting from scratch, I think that's what made my mind up.

We're in a similar position- 1 ivf baby 5 years ago after 6 years ttc.

I've always longed for a second (really wish I could be happy with one as it would be soooo much easier- but I can't not try iyswim).

Always the hoe of a miracle natural conception but not a whiff of one- So we've decided to go for one last fresh cycle and any fets from that. Fresh transfer ended in early m/c. We have one more frosty and if no pregnancy then I'll be sad but happy that we gave it a go and (I hope, be able to say goodbye to our ttc years!)

Emotionally it has been nowhere near as hard as first time round although I'm not keen to do it again.

Good luck whatever you decide, it's a really tough position to be in ;)

Thank you all for your responses we've decided to go for it and see what happens I'd definitely regret it if we don't and hopefully our son will keep me positive

Hiya, mind if I join? I had 3.5 years of infertility and 2 IVFs and one resulted in my DD who is now nearly 10 months.

We are TTC already, partly because of my age (40 this year.) Although it feels a little less upsetting than it used to when I get my period, I still feel those old feelings coming back ("what's wrong with me, why can everyone else do it" etc. etc.) I had a diagnosis of unexplained infertility which I now know was an autoimmune thyroid disease. I am working on that but it seems unlikely that it will be fixed within the timeline that I would like, and anyway it's still a gamble whether I would even get pregnant.

We have two frozen blasts and hope to start a FET with steroids in May. CosySnuggles I know what you mean about wishing we could just be happy with one. I am absolutely desperate for another baby already! I didn't predict feeling this way and wish I didn't.

We plan to try with our frozens and then if that doesn't work have one more fresh cycle of IVF and any frozen ones that go with that. I can't say I'm relishing the thought of diving back into all of this but feel I need to!

Jenbot good luck! I feel guilty like I think I should be happy with out son and why am I putting us through this! I've started doing ovulation tests but haven't ovulated yet but think unless I went private I have to wait a year to see Someone on the NHS.

I also feel like people constantly make comments about having another baby/ not having an only child which is so frustrating isn't it

Wingingit yes really hard in so many ways. I wonder if I would be so desperate to have another one so quickly if it wasn't for what we have been through. I had a terribly anxious pregnancy due to the years of infertility and I would love to be able to just relax a bit more if there were a next time around.

Lots of people told me that I would be more fertile after weaning from Breastfeeding but that hasn't happened quelle surprise. It makes me feel disappointed in my body all over again