Into year 8 and STILL NO BABY!!!

[bluemoonchances]

Not after advice. Not after sympathy. Just want to rant. Found out today that 2 more of my friends are pregnant, including one "accident/ wasn't even trying" (FUCK OFF!!!)
Started TTC in 2010. It's now 2018. 6 miscarriages.
When typing the obligatory "congrats! So happy for you!" Text messages earlier to pregnant friends, actually wanted to scream "FUCK OFF!!! " down the phone at them.

Yes I'm being a cow. Yes I'm being mardy. I'm beyond caring. Please do not comment if you're going to tell me my time will come.

Feel free to comment if you fancy a rant too!

The 'same old story' - that's her life. It's not a story, though I'm starting to think your posts are. Do you want to tell us what bought you to mumsnet btw?

seems we both got messages then.

I’m sorry if my posts upset people. That was far from what I was meant to be doing when replying

And maybe my words came out the wrong way of giving up. Again I’m sorry.

Op and anyone else I hope you get your dreams
Come true and sorry if I upset you 💐

OP did ask people not to do the 'your time will come' posts.

Sorry things have gone this way for you OP. It's shit and I don't blame you for being angry

Northern I don't see why you keep piping up since I wasn't speaking to you. What business is it of yours with regards to why I'm on MN?

Rant away and maybe have some 🍸🍸🍸along with it 😉

The OP has specifically said she doesn’t want advice. It’s her first sentence. She’s also said she doesn’t want to be told her time will come. She actually says she just wants to rant and to comment if you want to rant too.

I’m not sure why several of the posters on here feel it’s appropriate to completely ignore this and post with tales of hope, platitudes, advice and “have you tried...” and “have you had .....test” comments. How is any of that helpful to the OP when she has specifically asked people not to say any of these things? As an aside I think it’s more likely than not that in the 8 years the OP has been trying that she’s already had whatever tests/treatments anyone on here can come up with off the top of their heads and several more besides.

Infertility is hard enough and isolating as it is. I don’t understand why people would (whether inadvertently or not) deliberately make things worse for the OP and tell her what she has said herself she doesn’t want to hear when she’s clearly already feeling pretty crap.

Do people genuinely think their stories of success actually mean anything? Do they really believe the op hasn’t heard these “miracle stories of never giving up” before? The world is bloody full of them. Everyone had an aunt/sister/friend of a friend who beat the odds and had a baby at 96 after they took Chinese herbs/avoided Chinese herbs etc.

The op specifically said she did not want that sort of post. It isn’t relevant. It doesn’t help.

Flippin heck I just wanted a rant I didn't intend to cause a riot! I am glad for those of you that after years of TTC you got your happy ending, of course that's great. However you must recall from your TTC days that when people told you their success stories it really didn't help you at the time and was just plain annoying. Your success though doesn't take away from your years of pain.
In answer to other questions, yes me and hubby have had lots of tests, there are issues that I can't be bothered to bore you with, we have already tried icsi twice (MC both).

Just bored and frustrated and angry at the universe at the moment!
Sometimes a good rant in like therapy! I've got good friends but am conscious of being a bore to them after all these years. (Obviously they've never made me feel like that - they are fab!) just me being conscious.

I'm not a MUmsnet regular but I have been logging in a couple of times a year when I feel the need to be anonymous and get the frustration off my chest.

Good luck to everyone in similar boats xx

. I've not been in your situation but can understand being angry at the universe and the frustration. Rant away!

It took my best friend 20 years. She conceived aged 44. We had several rant meetings/ nights out over the years. Ventathons. Fingers crossed for you OP.

Been there OP and it is truly shit. The pregnancy announcements are the worst, especially when it’s a ‘surprise’ or an ‘accident’. Then all lovely and nice with the congratulations when all you want to do is poke their eyes out and scream ‘why not me!’ Yep, I totally get the anger.

Maybe it’s not meant to be.

Very true Fox. Doesn't mean can't feel fed up about it though.

Was ten years with us.

Rant it out lass, support here if needed and we understand. Xx

bluemoon> it is shitty and unfair and frustrating and all those things. Sorry you are going through it too, but just know you are not alone, there are loads of us (6 years for me and 'only' two miscarriages but we've reached the end of the road) we're just a bit harder to find (like diamonds )