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So so angry with old Drs

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Alwayscommuting · 04/02/2018 19:53

I have recently received a medical diagnosis that was made years ago!

I lived in another city and started to go through tests as me and my husband were finding it difficult to conceive. I had lots of blood tests and scans but no conclusive results. Perhaps naively I didn’t ask what the actual results were or in some cases even what they were looking for.

These tests ended abruptly when I had a miscarriage and the fertility specialist I saw a few weeks later told me everything was weight related including my MC.

It was a very low point for me, I suffered from depression brought on by the “fact” that it was all my fault that I had lost my baby.

Fast forward 3 years and I’m in a new town with a new house and a much better outlook on life. I’ve decided to lose the weight I need to so we can hopefully start our family. I’m not losing weight very quickly and while I’m at Drs for something else I mention this. Wondering if she has any tips or advice for me. She’s looking through my notes that have been transferred and she says well you PCOS probably will make it more difficult to lose weight but stick at it you’re doing well.

I was completely stunned. Nobody ever mentioned PCOS to me. If I’d known it might have made me feel less useless, less like everything was my fault. I’m absolutely livid that my old doctor had this information but didn’t share it with me.

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Flomy · 04/02/2018 19:55

Were they definately your notes?

My G.P was going on at me about something on the screen, when I asked her if they were my notes. They wern't.

Alwayscommuting · 04/02/2018 21:12

They were definitely mine. I had her check because I couldn’t believe I would have been diagnosed and not told.

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physicskate · 04/02/2018 21:17

That really sucks, I have many of the symptoms of pcos, but my doc refuses to give the diagnosis because I don't 'look like I have pcos.' But essentially, the problem is the same either way: I can't get pregnant.

If you had been told about your diagnosis, what would be different now?

I guess, fertility is actually out of our control... is you current gp willing to refer you? How much weight do you need to lose to get below 30 bmi?

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