We've been TTC for 5.5 years and are due to have IVF likely in the new year which obviously may or may not be successful. Our infertility is something I am incredibly private about and nobody knows about the IVF and very few people know we've been TTC let alone for such a long period of time . We get married in a few weeks and I'm sure we'll face the question / insinuations from various parties about starting a family and the pitter patter of tiny feet. Years ago I just used to brush this off with having years yet but at nearly 37 this excuse no longer cuts the mustard so what can I say instead? What a really want to say is mind your own bloody business but I'm not sure that's the best way to endear myself to some of my new in-laws. I have considered the mumsnet staple of "did you mean to be so rude and ask such a personal question" followed by tinkley laugh whatever a tinkley laugh is, but I'm not sure I can bring myself to crush great aunt so and so in this way when she thinks she's asked a perfectly reasonable question.
In the past I've also made out I don't like children but I don't like doing this now as I stupidly feel a bit like I'm jinxing myself.
How does everyone else deal with the well meaning but utterly clueless?