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IVF - are we being stupid?

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topcat2014 · 23/09/2017 13:36

I am 46 and DW is (just) 43.

We have one DC(10) and would like another.

Not happened the usual way - are we being stupid to think about IVF, should we just forget it all and get a dog?

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TheVanguardSix · 23/09/2017 13:41

Awww... the dog is an excellent idea.
We had our last DC surprisingly at 42. Not IVF but still...
If you have the means to do it and really want another child, go for it!! Lots of women are having babies up to the age of 45 naturally and through IVF.
You're not being stupid at all! You're still in the game. Good luck to you.

I'm a total dog fanatic and actually, we got a dog when I was 43 and going through a sort of "We're done with making babies" bereavement. I found it very, very healing to get a dog. It lifted me out of my slump and helped me come to terms with the closing of my fertile window, if that makes sense. The problem is, now I want more dogs. Smile

Polly99 · 23/09/2017 13:42

My doctor told me he gets reasonable results until about age 43 and then it becomes difficult.
The thing is, IVF success rates are low for anyone, and even worse when you are older. Are donor eggs an option?

SerfTerf · 23/09/2017 13:44

If you're prepared to consider donor gametes as a possibility, there's no reason why your chances shouldn't still be good.

Original poster
topcat2014 · 23/09/2017 13:49

Thanks for lifting my spirits!

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margasid1 · 23/09/2017 18:19

My work colleague had twins in February. IVF in Spain, she is 45, healthy babies. Won’t hurt to go for consultation. Good luck with the babe or dog whatever you decide :)

Persipan · 23/09/2017 19:22

Realistically, with your own eggs the chances would be extremely small. But if you'd be prepared to consider donor eggs then your odds are much the same as those of a younger woman.

Viviennemary · 23/09/2017 19:24

Why not. But agree you've a much better chance if you consider donor eggs. But look into it and see what the experts advise.

Beardedandbalded · 23/09/2017 19:24

Yes with donor egg. Look at Lister, they are good with older women.

EarlGreyT · 23/09/2017 19:45

margasid1 I would put money on your colleague having used donor eggs. The chance of successful ivf with own eggs at 45 is very low, it's much more likely she used a donor.

JoJoSM2 · 23/09/2017 21:21

Yes, a chance of IVF with own eggs working in your mid 40's is less than 1%. So a donor egg might be the only option.

margasid1 · 23/09/2017 22:27

EarlGreyT yes donors for both egg and sperm, forgot to add this sorry.

anamika12 · 23/09/2017 23:12

Had my first cycle of Icsi.. doctor told me i m having 7 eggs of good size and 3 small and asked me to have 10000 dose of pregnyl to mature eggs. On collection day I was being told they 4 eggs matured and are good. Next day got call only.1 fertilised and today morning got a call saying cycle is failed. Can anyone please advice me why this happened. Even sperms they got were good in quality

anamika12 · 24/09/2017 07:31

Had my first cycle of Icsi.. doctor told me i m having 7 eggs of good size and 3 small and asked me to have 10000 dose of pregnyl to mature eggs. On collection day I was being told they 4 eggs matured and are good. Next day got call only.1 fertilised and today morning got a call saying cycle is failed. Can anyone please advice me why this happened. Even sperms they got were good in quality

physicskate · 24/09/2017 09:14

I'm really sorry anamika. It can happen for a huge variety of reasons. How old are you?

JoJoSM2 · 24/09/2017 10:04

Anamika, at this stage it's most likely due to poor egg quality although there could be other reasons too.

NoImBridgetJones · 24/09/2017 19:04

I'm so sorry anamika Flowers

anamika12 · 24/09/2017 23:09

Hi I m 30 years old.... gowing to hospital almost 3 year but no luck...

anamika12 · 24/09/2017 23:10

Dear JoJoSm2 on first day don't told me quality of egg is good enough to get positive results

JoJoSM2 · 25/09/2017 07:24

Anamika, just re-read your post. Lack of fertilisation is due to poor sperm quality. Embryos arresting on day 2 will be down to the RNA from the eggs as the parents DNA is not activated at that stage.

I'm sorry it's been so bad for you and wish you better luck next cycle.

Blondeshavemorefun · 27/09/2017 00:18

Not being silly. If you feel you want to try for andkjrr baby and have the money to private ivf then yes go for it

I would agree about de - giving you the best chance

Tho I was 42.5 when had 3rd ivf and although failed I had some left to freeze and dd was out 5th try a fet

So yes it can happen with own eggs and clinics always said my amh and gah very good for my age - but it is rarer over 40 for success

Salva91 · 27/09/2017 12:38

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zippybear · 27/09/2017 13:08

Wow Salva you have a lot of infertile relatives.... unless this is more spam for ukranian clinic?!

resbutterfly · 02/10/2017 06:35

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physicskate · 02/10/2017 06:54

Res - I am sure you mean well, but the reality is that not all of us will have children and there are other ways to 'complete the home.'

Your post comes across as very insensitive...

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