Anyone in TWW now (mid/end Sept 2017) ?

[Avocadosmoothie]

I'm 2dp5dFET, is anyone else waiting? X

Congratulations Bridget - hope all is ok on Wednesday.

I'm 7dp5dt so it probably isn't too early. I'll go for the blood test on Wednesday but I am not hopeful.

Avocado, I'm absolutely thrilled for you!!

Lemon, I'm so sorry about your BFN Do you know what's next for you?

I got a massive bleed yesterday, was told by clinic to continue pessaries and test tomorrow. Gutted and absolutely certain this one didn't stick. Hopeful that it's just my body didn't cope well with DR and stims and not an issue of embryo health. My poor DH has been googling and keeps saying "we don't know until we test" and it's heartbreaking that he's still so optimistic Reckon we will try with one of our frozens in the new year but shattered this first round didn't work out.

Hi meadow. Really sorry about your bleed. Fingers crossed for positive news tomorrow.

We have 4 more frozen embryos so will do another FET in a couple of months, our last NHS transfer. I would so like to know or at least discuss why it isn't working though. It just feels like it might never happen.

So so sorry meadow, I remember you from the previous thread earlier in the year with avocado and have been checking in to see how you were getting on. It's just utter shit. I think my failure was because it was a fresh round, my body wasn't recovered from the medication and egg collection. I'm keeping everything crossed for you that this is also the reason and all the best for your fet. Make sure you spoil yourself. x

Lemon, please let us know how you get on with your blood test tomorrow. Have you gotten any helpful information from your clinic on why your earlier rounds didn't work?

Scottish, thank you, I remember you too. It is absolute utter shit. I am hoping my failure was because of the fresh round and stimulation too, but can't help but let my mind run to terrible scenarios. What are your next steps? I've forgotten, are you cycling abroad?

Thank you ladies for your kindness and support. xx

Blood test negative as expected. They haven't suggested anything as to why it might be as everything looks ok - lining and embryos. I will book an appointment to speak to the doctor again to ask what we could do differently next time.

Meadow did you test in the end? Hope you're ok.

Sorry about your negative, Lemon. Negative for me too. Gutted. We have two frozen embryos so I'm hopeful for those, haven't done PGS but not sure we are able to. Wishing you better luck for next time and hope you are ok. xx

Hi,
I'm 13dp2dt, and tomorrow is official test day. I'm bricking it. This last week has been a killer and it's been a real challenge to stay positive. My best friend had a BFN last week.
Symptoms since transfer, a cold/chest infection, cramps, constipation, nausea. Day 12 cramps were particularly bad and a low point.
Avocado - so nice you got your BFP . It's good to hear of a positive.

I feel for all those with BFN's. I have a fear I'm heading that way too.....

We haven't done PGS either meadow - our clinic doesn't recommend it. But I would like to know if there is an issue with the embryos. Maybe next time we will do that. Sorry about the negative. How are you feeling? My period still hasn't arrived - dragging this thing out!

suze how did you get on?

Suse, welcome and how did you get on? It's a rubbish two weeks, isn't it?

Lemon, hope your period comes soon, awful to drag on like this. Any idea why your clinic doesn't recommend PGS? How are you getting on otherwise?

I'm gutted really. Period has come and gone so at least my body seems to be getting back to normal. My clinic said 2-3 months before frozen transfer so we'll have a bit of a break from the hormones, injecting schedules, etc. Would much prefer to be pregnant but will be good to have a bit of a break from this stress as well.

Hi meadow/lemon, so it was BFN. As much as I thought I was prepared for it, it has hit hard and I do I know how you both/all feel. It's such a rollercoaster of emotions.

I'm 43 (on Monday) extracted 7, 3 fertilised but only two transferred. I knew my chances were slim.

I've not heard of PGS so I will look into that and ask my consultant when I next see her.

I agree it will be nice to have a break from all the drugs, but I would rather be pregnant too. We will give it another go - and perhaps second time lucky 👍🏼

Oh I'm sorry suse. I think even if you're expecting it you still have hope that you're wrong and it is crushing.

meadow they just said that even some embryos that are found to be abnormal can actually go on to be healthy babies and they don't fully understand that side of it, so you could be discounting a good chance.

It really just is gutting isn't it? I was at an event today where absolutely everyone had kids and it seemed to be the only topic of conversation. It is just so lonely.

So sorry to hear Suse, it's just gutting no matter how much you expect it. Agree I'd much rather have jabs and appointments and scans if it meant a baby, especially as Christmas is coming

Lemon, a big hug to you. It's rubbish feeling so excluded, especially now that I'm in infertility treatment. I used to enjoy those sorts of things and be excited I'd soon get to talk about my kids, wonder when it would be my turn, etc, but now it just seems like a club I can't join. Has your period come on yet? X

I feel the same as you lemon/meadow. My DH has two kids, and whilst he obviously does want more the disappointment of failed IVF is not the same for him and I do feel lonely too. He has his own troubles with the ex's so I don't feel there is much room for me, and he isn't so good at the emotional stuff.

Everywhere I look it's babies babies and it's a constant reminder that I may not have that. I'm just waiting for my period to arrive which if the stomach cramps are anything to go by it should be soon.

Big hugs to both of you xx

Yes just started today. Progesterone seems to affect me a lot.

Fingers crossed for your next cycles. One cycle isn't much - they say to view it as a three cycle treatment so try not to worry too much about it not working first time. Xx

I just started too xx

Fingers crossed for you two as well. Yes Lemon, they say it's really three goes that you need, so shouldn't be surprised that this first one didn't take.

Hope you are both well. I'm sat on the couch googling why my cycle failed, must pull myself away. Dread going out and seeing babies and bumps everywhere though. Work was such a good distraction this week but can't seem to pull myself together today

Step away from google meadow !!

We've just booked a last minute holiday (for tomorrow as I had a planned week off) and I've just packed. Not sure if it's a good idea as I will have more time to think, but some sunshine may help. Hopefully not too many babies where we are going.

Thank you Suse, google can really be a nightmare! Last minute holiday sounds fab, hope you find yourself on a baby free beach. X