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To wish my body worked properly and to hate infertility

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NooNooHead1981 · 20/09/2017 12:25

I hate my body.

It has let me down so badly over the past few years. I've wanted a sibling for my DD for nearly 6 years, and when I became pregnant in March this year, I had an ectopic and surgery. We've never been careful at all and don't use any form of contraception, yet the only time it has happened, it ends in tears.

I also have a drug-induced movement disorder that I would be scared would get worse if I was pregnant again (hormones may possibly have an effect, but I don't know this for sure), plus I would be worried about another tough pregnancy or labour. I was induced in every way possible with DD and had a 9 hour labour, then an emergency C-section and post eclampsia. My family aren't too keen on me being pregnant again for these reasons, plus being out of work at the moment doesn't really help.

I am beginning to think I am only going to have one child. I am incredibly grateful and lucky to have a healthy, wonderful and happy child and would never take this for granted, nor do I want to make others who are childless think I am moaning about nothing. It's the awful helpless feeling that comes with secondary infertility that eats away at me and makes me so so so sad - the thought of never having another child again makes me feel quite devastated. I know people do ok having an only child, but I have always wanted two and I feel so depressed thinking I never will.

Sorry for the rant, I just need a bit of a hug today.

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dinksandbinks · 20/09/2017 18:42

Didn't want your post to go unanswered!! I really feel for you, it's so frustrating and isolating isn't it?

I had a massive hate-my-stupid-body rant the other night.... it feels like everything comes easy to everyone else and here am I with my factory seconds body.

Of course the fact this board is so well used says that actually it doesn't come easy all the time!!

Sorry no idea if that's helpful.

I also went through an ectopic earlier this year, it ruptured, and I'd been wandering round for days with the 2 litres of blood in my abdomen... I thought I had gas and was downing rennie deflatine. So although stupid body can't seem to make a baby, it did keep me alive against the odds. In that way, bodies are amazing.

Can you do some volunteering or hobby type thing to distract yourself? Being out of work is rotten for your self esteem at the best of times.

Hugs, flowers, and well wishes to you

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