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marianna707 · 27/08/2017 22:10

I was born without a uterus. I've been always thinking that it's my destiny to live childless life. Many women live like this. So I didn't see problem in my situation. But everything changed, when I met a man, who gave me so much love and desire to become mother of his children. John, my husband, knows about my problem. I've never hided it from him. We're thinking about surrogacy a couple of years already. But prices in our country are very high. We considered India and thought to go there. There are many good stories of other couples in the Internet. And also their prices are much lower. But as you know India was closed for foreigners. A couple of months ago we decided to stop tearing ourselves and live happily together. In one word we decided to accept childless life. But how can I? I know how much he wants to have kids! And I want the same the most in the world! His sister gave birth to little princess last month. How he looks at her! He has tears in his eyes every time we come to his sister' house! And I'm crying all nights long because I feel so guilty. I know it isn't my fault I was born like this. But I can do nothing with my feelings and with the situation. I'm afraid he will leave me for another woman, who will give him kids. I know he loves me, but I think every man wants to have heirs. So I decided that I should do something! I found second job so I'll be able to save some money. I want to find as much info and details as I can and then I'll tell John about everything. That's why I need your help! Hope you'll advise me some good agencies/clinics/doctors etc. We are ready to go abroad!

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Sequence · 27/08/2017 22:14

Is there any chance his sister might be able to carry a surrogate baby for you, when her own family is complete?

PurpleDaisies · 27/08/2017 22:18

Just to warn you, there are spammers from a really unscrupulous clinic in Ukraine who pretend to be genuine posters but are just out there to promote their business.

Sorry to hear of your troubles. It's a horrible position to be in.

BiggerBoatNeeded · 28/08/2017 00:37

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AniSL · 28/08/2017 11:18

Hi Marianna

Sorry to hear about this heartbreaking situation. I'm confused as to what you mean by India being closed to foreigners?

Ani

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PurpleDaisies · 30/08/2017 07:53

Nobody will use that clinic now martina. This marketing strategy is having the opposite effect to what you want. Biscuit

EarlGreyT · 30/08/2017 07:54

Oh please marina. BioTexCom is an unethical fertility clinic which resorts to dodgy advertising practices like setting up troll posts by people pretending to be patients in order to recruit people to their clinic. That alone tells you that they have no morals and should be avoided at all costs.

EarlGreyT · 30/08/2017 07:54

*martina even, not that it matters since you're not even real and are only here to advertise

Minster2012 · 30/08/2017 22:58

@Marianna707 do you need to go abroad? You can do surrogacy in the UK, myself and my OH are trying for a baby with a surrogate in the UK, through an independent arrangement. It's legal, it's just illegal to profit from it.

There are agencies in the U.K., COTS, Surrogacy UK but they have long waiting lists but can give you lots of information on their websites on surrogacy in general which is of use to then get you into the closed U.K groups which is where independent surrogates and intended parents can talk as it is illegal to advertise for surrogacy in the UK.

Look up lumdeedums on YouTube, lisa is a founder of one of the surrogacy UK closed forums on Facebook you can ask to join but ONLY if you understand the UK system...I can't advise on abroad but maybe don't give up on the UK as if (like me) you have no ability to have kids through medical issues then you should get your embryo IVF treatment for you & John on the NHS so don't give up on the UK, talk to your GP for a referral to an infertility clinic as a first port of call. You would save money on that. Please talk to your doctor & take advise.

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fififa · 06/09/2017 17:12

You can also consider surrogacy in Russia and Georgia (less expensive), and the US (more expensive)

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SerfTerf · 15/09/2017 00:06

They don't give up easily, do they? 🙄

SerfTerf · 15/09/2017 00:09

Nobody's going to use Ukrainian or Russian clinics off the back of this viral spamming sofia.

It doesn't really work as a convincing gambit. It just looks silly to British eyes and discredits the clinics.

Blondeshavemorefun · 15/09/2017 00:21

Would iou consider adoption? If he /you went to be parents that much then maybe it's something to lookin to

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SerfTerf · 15/09/2017 01:11

FGS

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