I am a 39 year old woman who has had two ectopic pregnancies, which left me with one remaining fallopian tube. I spent four years in my last relationship with a partner where the relationship wasn’t really going anywhere due to various problems with my partner and although we wanted children, in hindsight, he wasn’t mature enough to go through the process.
My GP told us that they would refer us to a fertility clinic if he got help with his addiction problems. Alas, he didn’t and we split up last year.
After much consideration, I decided that I would like to have a child on my own and am strong enough to do this. The issue is that my GP is now informing me that my borough in London will only offer me IVF treatment if I am in a partnership with a man who I have been trying to conceive with for twelve months or more. I was previously told that I would be offered 3 free cycles of IVF before the age of forty and one up until the age of 42.
I am currently in a relationship with someone new (for the last seven months) and all is going well except that he is eight years older than me and doesn’t really want children. His attitude is that “well if it happens, we would deal with it” which are not the most encouraging words.
I would like to have a child with him but am not sure how to broach the subject and do not want to push someone into doing something they were not planning to do.
I’m feeling a bit lost with the situation and wondered if anyone could give me some advice? I have eight months until I’m forty and as they say, the clock is most definitely ticking! and I would like to fulfill my dream of being a mother.
Thank you
Bryony