Sillysausages007 · 26/03/2017 10:03
Just wanted to send a virtual hug to everyone "enjoying" Mother's Day today, who either hasn't yet achieved their dream, or who spent years and years of trying (and hasn't forgotten the pain of IF).
Hang on in there - it's only one day. Be kind to yourself and have a good day.
VivienneWestwoodsKnickers · 26/03/2017 10:09
Thank you Sausage.
My beloved has tried to be kind this morning but as always has put his foot in it saying this "would be 'my' day" if we had kids. Gee thanks! Bless him, he was genuinely trying to say something nice and ballsed it up.
Keep your chins up ladies.
BipBippadotta · 26/03/2017 10:20
to everyone on one of the shittest days of the infertility calendar. And to people who are without their own mums as well.
Isthismummy · 26/03/2017 10:22
It's the shittiest of shitty days
No child of my own and my relationship with own dm is nothing to write home about. All my friends are posting pictures with their mums on fb. I don't even have a picture of me with mine to post!
I would suggest and for all. If that doesn't work then go for the hard drugs.
Imamouseduh · 26/03/2017 11:42
I'll be cuddling my fur baby and staying off social media today to avoid the smug overload! And remembering that what most mothers seem to want for Mother's Day is peace and quiet and the opportunity to do whatever they want, which I can do every day. Silver linings.
Imamouseduh · 26/03/2017 11:44
I'm also be missing my own mother though too. Yeah this day stinks! Gin might be the answer.
bananafish81 · 26/03/2017 12:09
If I hated mother's day after I lost my mum, I REALLY hate it after losing our baby and accepting we are at the end of our infertility treatment journey and that I can never carry a child
￼ to you all
bastardlyandmutley · 26/03/2017 14:00
I thought I was okay but roll on this morning and I feel really quite empty. I guess this is the first Mothers Day where the end of the road is definite, I'll never have a miracle baby. Compounded by the fact that my "D"Sis has had a "surprise" baby and I keep dwelling on that today. All tinged with misplaced guilt that my toxic mother is without her children on Mothers Day & my DH is away visiting his awful mother for weekend. Thankfully he left me two beautiful cards from my dogs which has cheered me up a bit.
I'm sorry for all you struggling today. It is truly shitty.
Isthismummy · 26/03/2017 16:37
OK, so my rage has not been helped by dp's mum sending a really self pitying text about how him and the middle brother never get in touch with her and they can "do things on their own from now on"
He'd already text her first thing this morning and said he'd ring her later ffs! This is the woman who threw both him and his middle brother out when they were teenagers btw. She's also got a ten year old son who she is currently away at Butlins with.
She doesn't know about our fertility issues, but I am fucking RAGING. She's got three gorgeous sons and she's still not happy!! I didn't like her to start with, but this had just sealed the deal
SuperMoonIsKeepingMeUpToo · 26/03/2017 16:45
I've now got two beautiful teenagers, the result of a successful IUI after the years of unexplained infertility, but I still remember the acute pain of Mother's Day when month after month I couldn't get pregnant.
to you all, be kind to yourselves.
IsItIorAreTheOthersCrazy · 26/03/2017 18:14
Banana I am so sorry (I remember you from the original PCOS thread a long time ago) 💐
Thank you for starting this OP. I was floored by a surprise pregnancy announcement of a friend 2 days ago. Was dreading today anyway as it feels so hopeless. And today found out my dsis is pregnant. A happy, lucky surprise but my God it hurts.
I've been a tearful mess and am just giving in to it. I'll go back to sticking a smile on tomorrow
💐 🍷 and for everyone else in the same boat
Sillysausages007 · 26/03/2017 18:50
It's nearly over now girls - hope you've all got the gin out. Hugs.
Isthismummy · 26/03/2017 19:08
So sorry isit that's just really, really shit.
Nearly over now though like Sillysausages says. We will all live to fight and cry another day.
Chocogoingcuckoo · 26/03/2017 20:23
I was doing alright til I went on fb and had a bit of a wobble at all the posts. Can't have biological kids, no more ivf, and going through the adoption process. DP has said numerous times yesterday and today "this time next year", he stopped once I reminded him that is what he's said the last few years eejit. Anyway, today has been spent with my SIL (her 1st mothers day) my mum and MIL celebrating mothers day. Where's the vino .
HeyHeyHeyGoodbye · 26/03/2017 21:15
I was doing ok until I just got babybombed by a family friend, via DM. DM will now be the only one of her group of friends without grandchildren.
Plus had to deal with FIL making a stupid remark about single parents in front of DM, and DH got me a card from the dog which should have made me laugh but instead made me cry.
to everyone feel blue
IsItIorAreTheOthersCrazy · 27/03/2017 17:05
We survived though. Hope everyone is ok today
SleepFreeZone · 27/03/2017 17:06
Bless you. If it helps Mother's Day can also be a really shit day for those who have managed to produce children 💐💐💐
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