It's Christmas! Let's make it even worse for her ?????

[waitingimpatient]

Absofuckinglutely fuming

Dm showed me (?) my Xmas gifts and dsis ....."chocs for you both etc etc,....oh and these funny books 'the mum' for dsis as baby due soon and this for you 'mid life crisis'"
So I cried
And cried

Apparently at my age (34???) I'm too old to get pg
I've been stressing recently over how to be a good sister to dsis when my hearts breaking.....how I'm going to manage to not cry at the baby shower etc and this has ruined me :(
Want to scream

OP.

It is tough. I had some really hurtful things said to me, although not from my DM.

Your DM needs to reign in her 'humour'

You are doing the right thing by staying away for a bit.

Glad to hear you aren't spending Christmas with her.

Stay away and tell her why. She's an insensitive cow.

Oh waiting I'm so so sorry, what a hideous thing for her to do

I feel your pain, I really do. I turn 33 at Christmas and my younger sister is pregnant. She's just starting to show and absolutely dreading it. It's incredibly draining to constantly be putting a brave face on and pretending you're ok (I do it as much for my own pride as for her) but it's especially shite at Christmas.

I remember your post about her asking you to feel the baby kick and thought that was hugely insensitive.
Make sure you come and vent on here, we'll all vent away with you!!

I'm absolutely dreading it, that souls say {fat fingers}

SHOULD

It just makes me feel guilty as it's her first baby and maybe I'm overshadowing by refusing things like that but it's a knee jerk reaction. So hard to know what to do I just feel seconds away from tears constantly

I completely understand, but it was v inconsiderate of her to ask you to feel her bump. I think you said she's quite young and not really aware of how difficult it is for you?

It's exhausting dealing with infertility full stop, without feeling your constantly having to put on a brave face for other people's sake. I'm quite fortunate in that my family being considerate but I can feel how they're all walking on eggshells and I dont want my sister to feel like she can't enjoy her pregnancy because of me. It's such a shit situation all round

Will you and DH get some nice alone time over xmas?