Has anyone found themselves unable to use their frozen embryos?

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I have (had!) 5 frozen embryos.
My H would not agree to use them.
They stayed frozen, and we stayed in limbo about it (or I did, I don't think he did...) for 10 years.
The HFEA rules mean they have just been defrosted, against my will.

Has anyone else been in this position?

I'm not too sure on this answer as I have recently been through a fresh IVF cycle and had to go through a hell of a lot of paperwork about spare embryos and freezing them and consent forms etc.
We have agreed to freeze our remaining embryo for 10 years as stated on paperwork but if you want an extension, you have to ask (and obviously pay for it). My understanding is after those 10 years are up, and you haven't used them, then yes your clinic can dispose of them.
Another question, why did you husband agree on freezing embryos if he had no intention of wanting to use them?

Well, we had 1 IVF cycle which was successful (ds)
(very lucky).

Then another. H got a virus during it and was very ill. We told clinic and they said 'oh, wont affect the sperm you'll be fine'. I got 16 eggs and we had 1 single sperm in sample. they couldn't freeze eggs at the time and they didn't fertilise a single egg with the single sperm.
I argued with them about the virus and they eventually (after threats of court) 'gave us another free go'.

The 3rd cycle produced 8 embryos. they let 3 develop, and suggested we freeze the other 5, 'just in case'.

After the catastrophe of cycle number 2, we decided to take their advice.
I spoke to H at the time and said I had strong beliefs and could only agree to freezing if we would always 'give them the chance of life sometime'. He agreed.

3rd cycle produced Dd.

Over the 10 years max storage time (under HFEA rules) he changed his mind, back and forth, but always ended up a No :(

I have heard of a couple of couples on Fertility Friends who have been through this and their marriage didn't survive.

It is a 'hidden side' of IVF, that's for sure.

I recorded the recent TV prog about Britain's Fertility Business but couldn't bring myself to watch it.

Why is dh against it? Assume he doesn't want no 3

Also don't get why the clinic couldn't freeze your eggs and your dh give a good sample later and then defrost one/two eggs and do icsi and implant in you?

What were there reasons for not freezing

Agreed there is a huge amount of paperwork in ivf and ESP if frozen both fet we did we had think 8 sheets of a4 to fill in and both of us had to sign bottom of page sayings we agreed to it