Wow Bananafish, you have really been going through it. And I'm sure it's not easy.
I have so many questions, I hope you don't my asking and that it's not insensitive to ask?
It's really encouraging news that your eggs are genetically perfect, you're way ahead of us...how do you get them tested?
I was looking at surrogacy agencies in UK, sounds as though you have pretty much ruled them out? And that you think the US is the best place to go and you may be able to recommend some contacts?
We're seeing Mr Lower on Monday in London. I'm freaking out about what the hell the NHS Gynae did on Monday, because it was meant to be a straightforward hysteroscopy with a camera, but I woke up with a lot of bleeding and my womb is still incredibly painful. I haven't been able to speak to the consultant, only the registrar who came to see me after the operation and who looked about 12!! She said "we found a lot of scarring on the right hand side of your womb. We don't know why it is there. We haven't seen it before (I asked her to clarify and she said, they haven't seen this type of scarring on anyone before) and we don't know what it is". Then she said "He (the Gynae) tried to scrape it off but he couldn't". And that they were going to ask another Gynaecologist if he knew what it was (they showed me photos of the healthy left hand side and the scarring on the RH side).
Does that sound really odd and worrying to you? Surely if it's Asherman's it must be fairly common and they should know what it is? And what were they doing trying to remove it if they don't know what it is?
More worrying, I've done some reading about Asherman's and it all says that it should only be treated by someone who knows what they are doing, otherwise they could make it much worse. So AIBU to be extremely worrried and upset? I've been calling the Gynae's secretary all day asking for him to call me directly and explain, and also for a copy of my notes but she has told me he's too busy and if I'm in pain to speak to my GP. She doesn't see why I think I have the right to speak to him.