Because one issue isn't enough. Diminished ovarian reserve AND poor motility!

[IsthisMummy]

New to this board, so hello everyone.

My DP and I have just had blood and semen results back from our hospital. I have DOR and DP has poor motility. Doctor wants me to go back for more bloods when I next have my period (God knows when that will be; cycles are irregular since coming off pill) and she said she would then advise us depending on the results.

All this was done over the phone and as you can imagine I am now incredibly upset and stressed. We have only been ttc since April, but I just knew instinctively that there was an issue and I really pushed for tests.

What are they likely to advise us? Is it likely to be IUI or IVF? would it be possible that I wouldn't be a candidate? Doctor said she wasn't too worried about DP low motility, but surely she should be? I was so in shock that I didn't think to ask. I suspected there would be an issue with me as I'm 37, but never even considered DP as he's a lot younger than me.

Any sage words of wisdom would be really appreciated right now.

Was that including the meds lucieloo? It looks like they're a pretty expensive lay out on top of actual procedure!

Prices in UK are just horrendous aren't they? Totally unjustifiable imo. There's no way DP and I could afford them.

Sorry chatty cat, I meant egg quantity. Apparently my brain has been in shut down mood since I spoke to my doctor 😣

I've been looking into sperm motility improvement. DP already takes wellman vits, eating healthily and cut back on alcohol. Think I might get him some fertilaid. Apparently Ubiquinol is also recommended. I've been shoving extra zinc and vit c tablets down his throat since Wednesday too😃

No that's not including meds they are anywhere from a few hundred to a thousand extra on top. You will probably be looking at £2500-£3000 for all expenses trip to Czech and around £5000 in the uk.

We tried all the supplements for DH but thy didn't do a lot for him although some have managed to improve their results a little but still probably need to go onto IVF.

The fact that you both have fertility issues gives you more symmetry than a lot of couples with TTC struggles have - no one 'guilty party' to torture themselves, so don't do it anyway!

You're in it together regardless of where the issue lies.

As for not being able to afford to marry, why not just buy a nice suit and dress and do it? There are loads of nice registry offices in London. (Chelsea? Very rock star glam 😉) Make a decision and a statement that you WON'T be held back or driven apart.

Good luck

Still eye wateringly pricey lucieloo, but not quite as bad I guess. We'll just have to cancel our lives to save up for it.

Manumission. You're right of course. It's nobodies fault really. I have a lot of deep rooted depression/ anxiety issues that are coming to the fore with all this. Your registry wedding idea is lovely. I'm not sure I will have the heart for it for some time to come though. Feeling very bleak right now. I know I'll have to pull myself together at some point though.

Hi isthismummy, I hope you don't mind but I couldn't read and run.

Dp and i have just had our first appointment with our fertility consultant. I have a low ovarian reserve which she was really shocked about because I'm 27 and she said that it is something that happens as a woman gets older. She made it very clear that I should not wait to get pregnant. My Dp has a low count, poor motility and morphology but all showed a real improvement on the 3rd SA. However, all three are still a bit too low.

She said that if it wasn't for my result, she would tell us to go away for another year and keep trying. She recommended that we have ICSI.

I really wouldn't panic until you have seen your consultant and discussed the results because at the moment you don't know the exact statistics.

(Sorry if I have repeated anything, I only read your message and just wanted to say, don't panic).

I'm sorry to hear about diagnosis leanandgreen. It must be even more horrifying to hear it when you're so young😢

Have you had your ICSI yet? Wishing you loads of luck if not. That's really interesting about your dp sperm. My consultant didn't mention anything about my dp redoing his sa. He wants to though.

I only wish I was seeing my consultant face to face to discuss results. Unfortunately she's only going to ring me once I've done my next blood test. I know the NHS is really squeezed, but I'm not looking forward to it. Potential bad news seems even worse somehow when it's over the phone!