Projecting onto friend's pregnancy?

[BlueberrySquash]

Hi all. My partner and I have had a tricky road so far to pregnancy. Currently trying clomid after 2 years of trying and longer of 'having sex and just seeing'. Some days it seems positive other days I feel sick with worry. Many of you can relate.

My beautiful friend is pregnant and my initial sick jealousy (shamefully) has turned into an almost-obsession. I am extremely aware that I am projecting onto HER wonderful experience; I am buying clothes for her baby and even made her some things. My friend is grateful and kind about my enthusiasm but I'm wondering if anyone else can relate to this situation? I love my friend and am so excited for her but I am worried that my feelings are perhaps not healthy. Has anyone got tips for managing this and also when the baby is born?

Thanks

Hi, I can relate to this to some extent. One of my best friends announced her pregnancy a year ago as we we're trying without success. I threw myself into planning a lovely shower and got loads of gifts and talked through labour etc. I think I was trying to give her the experience I wanted and trying to prove to everyone and myself that I was totally cool with it. Rather than admit I was jealous. Once baby was born it died off. I saw then both but a normal amount and seeing how hard she found it was good for me as it made me not feel jealous. He's now one though and were still no further forward so if it was to happen now I don't no how I would feel.

I think counselling would be good for you to talk through your feelings and work them out with someone impartial.

Good luck

Lugo thanks for your reply - I can really relate to what you're saying. I'd never thought of counselling but maybe you're right and it might be really productive. Thanks so much.