Some advice needed
grandiflora1 · 01/05/2015 09:59
Hi, just tested this morning after ivf cycle and test negative. This is 3rd fresh cycle which has failed as well as a frozen embryo transfer which ended in failure.I have also had a spontaneous pregnancy which ended in miscarriage last year. I am nearly 40 with low amh and my response to the last cycle was poor with only two follicles after stims. I feel I should be looking at other alternatives now.i appreciate any advice
Lauren83 · 01/05/2015 17:01
Hello, sorry to hear this, I had a failed own egg (low AMH/high FSH) cancelled own egg, then failed donor egg (poor donor response so didn't have much chance) then finally a BFP last month on another donor cycle. Took 7 years. Don't give up! We tried Immunes meds this time so think it was a combo of donor and the meds
merricat · 01/05/2015 17:49
Very sorry to hear your news. I too have just had a failed fresh own egg cycle (my first). I'm younger than you but with ovarian reserve problems, and we only got four eggs and two embryos, with none to freeze. How do you feel about donor eggs? We have been looking into going down that route, in Czech, if the next cycle fails.
grandiflora1 · 01/05/2015 17:55
Hi thanks for replies, was in the past reluctant about de but it's amazing how a few failed cycles can give a new perspective. Financially at the end of the road as live in Ireland so have to pay for all treatments , just so so drained from it all
merricat · 01/05/2015 18:54
So sorry grandiflora I know Ireland has its own problems for infertility, because of lack of free cycles and also horribly restrictive and problematic adoption rates (I read a thing in the Irish Times about is last year by Rosita Boland, who has been struggling for years). Are you considering / can you afford / remortgage your house for a further cycle? If so, I would definitely go for de. I know, it's hard to let go of the idea of your own biological child. For me, I just think about the joy I would get from a child that I carried, who is my husband's biological child, and who is ours. But it's such a hard thing to let go of. To us, if there's money involved, success rates are everything. What does your DP think?
grandiflora1 · 01/05/2015 20:19
Dp supportive but it's still a big decision. I'm lucky that I have a child from 1st cycle but desperate to have a sibling and complete my family, just so tired of this relentless pursuit , I just wonder would I takeout another loan for own egg cycle or go with de, just keep thinking that own cycle is just so difficult to do because of failure rates. Just can't face more disappointment
Lauren83 · 01/05/2015 20:23
I thought at first I would keep trying OE but when I realised after the first then cancelled cycles it wasn't looking great we moved to donor eggs, now my first donor gave us 1 egg which was a huge shock, second donor gave us 11 but only 4 mature but one seems to have stuck. Had I had unlimited amounts of money I would of kept going with OE but my need to be a mum was greater than my need to be a bio mum so donor seemed the wise choice
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