Advice feeling hopeless

[mrswelshy]

I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks in Dec 13 when I was 39. Natural pregnancy trying ever since nothing. I'm now 40 and have unexplained infertility. Had unsuccessful Ivf in feb 4 eggs all good quality, 3 fertilised grade 1 embryos and 3 were transferred. Paid privately as hubbie as two kids from previous marriage. In March had a day 2 blood test which gp said was borderline peri menopausal but not to worry as these blood tests are misleading and could very well be borderline because on period. This gp didn't recommended this test another did and he said they're not conclusive but doesn't affect Ivf. We're planning second cycle in June. Should I tell the clinic. Just stunned as I ovulate regularly, regular periods etc any one else been in this situation.

Could be worth checking thyroid levels as that can affect fertility.
But also the maximum success rate is like 40% for ivf so it would often taken more than 1 go. And it seems like, from reading threads etc, that older women can have good cycles and good looking embryos which may just not implant.
Did they grow them to blast?

I had successful ivf aged 41 with three embryos implanted. Not sure about the blood test you mentioned as I didn't have that but I was like you, un explained infertility, regular periods. It was our second round of ivf. One thing that I did was use Chinese medicine and acupuncture. I found a Chinese practitioner with speciality in infertility. Don't know whether it was that which cracked it, but found she gave me much more holistic advice about diet and general health as well both for me & DH. I think they have changed protocols for ivf quite a lot since mine, so yes also asking about blasts would be a good idea. Good luck!

Hi both thanks for your messages. They didn't grow them to blasts but I'll ask at our next cycle in June. Nice to hear success stories so hard to keep positive

We were in a similar position and were advised to use an egg donor, which we did successfully (had to have 2 goes). The age of the genetic material seems to make a big difference. Please don't feel hopeless - there will be other things to try.

Our consultant has said that whilst I have my own eggs, to use them. Unfortunately donor eggs aren't an option for me and hubbie. Personal choice I guess. My eggs are the only option don't think I could adopt either

Hello glad to hear it helped. I remember it all so well! Good luck