PCOS Frustration Rant - Doctors, ARGH!

[Lilwelshyrs]

So I saw my doc today. DH and I have been trying (or not not trying) for 3 years now. I have definitely got PCOS. I've been on Metformin since Sept 2014 and AF has been pretty good and regular - yay! I had a very stressful Christmas (family cancer scares and a suicide ) so missed my AF for a couple of cycles.
I've been monitoring my cycle using Ovia and it's super helpful. We DTD on my fertile days as much as physically possible, but obviously no BFP.
I saw my doc today - a lady ive not seen before. She seemed pretty uncaring and not bothered about my infertility. I had a wobble in Sept where I got scared of starting the metformin because omg what if I actually fell pregnant - something that seemed so far fetched at the time, but could actually become a reality.
She told me that because I had a prescription for the pill, I might not qualify for the next stage in my "journey"... What?! Because I had a wobble?! Because I questioned whether or not it was the right time to start a family?! Because I wanted to be sure it was something I definitely wanted to do?! I can't return a child! I can't decide I don't want one when I'm pregnant can I?! So why am I being penalised for questioning it?!

I'm also sad that (like many people on here) it can't be a natural thing... Why can't it be easy? Why do we have to go through so much when people are getting pregnant by accident all the time (seemingly!) or are on baby number 5... I just want one... Just one of my own :(

I believe the next stage is clomid... Reading about it on here sounds scary... I really didn't want to have to do all the monitoring and stuff... I quite enjoy doing things on a whim and this isn't a very whimsical process, is it?! I'm trying to enjoy learning about my cycle but I just want it to happen.

Argh!

Anyway... I'm having another Doctors appointment with a different doctor who ive seen before. He was much more approachable and helpful so maybe I'll get some more support from him.

Also any advice for PCOS sufferers husbands? I think my DH is struggling to keep his enthusiasm levels up... (Not like he's finding DTD a chore haha) - so sometimes I find that I feel a bit alone in this... It's my fault we can't have a baby... Not his.

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Has he been tested?
Did you take the pill
I can see what they are saying as you need to ttc continuously for yrs for treatment unless they find a major issue, which i dont think pcos counts.
Some people find ovulation monitors dont work with pcos.
Did you eat a lot of sugar over xmas. As i find its worst for my cycles and pcos. (Met can only do so much to lower levels)

Yes, DH has been tested and he's going to be re tested as he was tested a couple of years ago now.
We have been TTC for years though... That's what upsets me. And surely im allowed to question whether kids right now is the best thing? Why can't I question it without having to "reset" my ttc calendar?
I didn't take the pill.
PCOS is fairly major though?! I'm sure there are worse fertility problems than PCOS...

We were referred quickly due to very low sperm counts (after re-rest)
Pcos you can ovulate sometimes. And have seen several people on my antenatal thread with natural pg with pcos.
Hopefully as you didnt take it, they should be able to tell if you filled prescription i would think, they will ignore it.
But you could see why they wouldnt want to go to effort of referral if youre going to change mind/get nervous of meds. As you say clomid would i think be worse.
Pcos is i think a good cause as they can do stuff for it. Its identifiable so gets treatment- worse to be unexplained. Clomid is relatively simple, cheap and i think (could be wrong) you probably get treated for second DC or more etc. ivf can be 1 round and is most frequently not given if you have DC. Plus when you do have to pay 4-6k for a up to 40% chance per round.
With pcos i think clomid probably gives20% chance and you can get up to 6 goes (may depend) 120% chance sounds really good comparatively. But i assume then if it doesnt work you could get an ivf too. And maybe iui. So overall not too bad, and always the chance it could improve and get pg naturally with dc or dc2.

Though having pcos itself isnt nice and it can raise mc rates.

3 yrs is more than enough hopefully youll get onto next stage soon.

Have you tried soya isoflavones? Have a google - they're like nature's clomid and lots of people have had really positive results with them! Good luck :)