ready to start a family.

[minx2012]

Hi all.
I am 28 years old and my partner is 36. We have been together for 3 yrs and known eachother for 7.
I have pcos and enthro condition. My
ex and I were trying for a baby but no luck over 4yrs which is when I found out I will have problems conceiving. My partner and I are very happy and he has known about my problemd from start and is supportive. However I would love to start ttc now
but he has said maybe end of the year and then other day said bout having some nice holidays first. All I think bout is children. I have worked since 15 and had amazing experiences but now is time to want whats missing in my heart a baby. With my probs it could take years. What do I do??

[AuntieStella]

I think this might be a relationship problem, with the possible fertility issues throwing it into sharper focus.

I think there's a world of difference between having one last blast of a holiday and then TTC a bit later in the year after that; and what he appears to be saying which is 'later' (not just until the end of this year, if he's thinking of plural holidays).

There isn't an easy solution. He either wants DC or he doesn't, and you don't have time on your side to hang around for that long. Has he explained what gas led to this outbreak of cold feet?

[minx2012]

Thank u for your reply. At the end of the day I know we could start trying and I could fall pregnant but the chances with my probs are slim without the aid of drugs but I don't understand why hr says not yet. Im not a nag in the slightest the opposite and I know u can't force someone but don't think ge realise properly my probs and time isnt on my side. Its almost like he over thinks the practical side (which i know is sensible) but in life u can over think things until u talk yourself out of things instead of taking what life throws at u. We are both older and are not going out clubbing etc and ready to start the next chapter its hard himmaking me wait. Shall I wait or be a bit more firm?

[Naty1]

I think i would try to get him to understand the potential stress of waiting resulting in even lower fertility and possible costs.
Most couples i know managed a holiday with a newborn (not us though)
Not sure what ethro is.
But you need to make sure your pcos is as good as possible so low gi diet, staying thin etc. as treatment refused with high bmis etc.
We ttc at 29/30. Took over a yr to find i had pcos.
Without trying who is to say dp even has any sperm.
Are you sure he is sure he wants any as he is getting towards 40 if delaying ttc to after summer.

[minx2012]

Thank you both for your input and points of view. I have decided to move on and just get on with it and bury my thoughts of children until he is ready and just hope it will happen one day.