support thread for those who have a child following primary infertility and who are now TTC but dealing with secondary infertility?

[inconceivableme]

Any takers, other than me?

Yep me! First child from IUI, now starting IVF for number two. At least we know we are in for a rough ride second time around. Have you had anyone say "At least you have DC1" many times yet?!

Hi Second I have a 2.5 yr old from IVF. We were successful on our first attempt. I have polycystic ovaries but bloods show I ovulate normally most months. DH's swimmers are all fine. I had a lap & dye and hysteroscopy prior to my IVF and all was fine inside too apparently. So, we're very much unexplained, still.
We did FET in October / November last year. Got a BFP then miscarried days before 7 week scan.
Decided to try naturally for a few months. Got positive OPKs around days 15-17 last month and bloods on day 21 (or close to) and it was
ovulatory at 58. But I've done a pregnancy test today and it's negative and I feel like my period is about to start. DH got his sperm tested again last month and all
is fine. So frustrating. Obviously secondary is different to primary in so many ways and I treasure my son but all my mum friends already have a second or are expecting and you just can't avoid - or try to - babies and pregnant women so easily this time around.

Anyone else?!

I have an 18 month old from ICSI (2nd attempt). We are unexplained, so I was hoping that pregnancy had fixed whatever is wrong, but we've been trying for 15 months so far and still nothing. We've just about decided that we don't want to put ourselves through treatment again. It's so hard - a friend has just had her second baby (1st born a week after ourselves) and I want it to be me.

Yes, it is different to the feeling of desperation for number one. I am not prepared to go to the same lengths as last time, I don't have the financial, physical or emotional reserves to do it. We are unexplained too but I am a poor responder to the stim drugs and my AMH is rock bottom so it is my low egg reserve/quality that is the issue. I'm so sorry about your miscarriage inconceivable, I had two miscarriages before DC1 stuck, both times after fertility treatment and it feels doubly unfair.

Our first child is 3 now and we've not used contraception for about 7 years, so the chances of a natural pregnancy are pretty much zero. We are doing one round of IVF and that's it. I'm going to clear the loft of all the baby things and make a fresh start if this doesn't work and make a big list of all the positives of only having one as I'm fed up living in this limbo. A lot of the people we go to baby/toddler groups with are on number two, even though many of them have considerably younger DC1 than we have.
best of luck to you both, re entering this world of infertility is hard - it brings up lots of negative memories for me, even though it goes without saying I am beyond grateful for having my DC1.