Why is everyone else so fucking fertile? :(

[HappyAmbler]

I know this is one of many threads of a similar theme, but I didn't want to hijack anyone else's.

So, another pregnancy announcement today. Since we started ttc (almost 3 years ago), all of my close friends have managed to get pregnant within 3 months (I know because they told me when they started trying).

Of course I am happy for them. I wouldn't wish infertility on my worst enemy. But it just makes me feel so fucking barren and useless, like I've failed as a woman

I think 'why me and not them?' which then makes me feel like a terrible person. I can believe I've become so bitter and jealous.

Moan over. I'm sure I'll feel better in the morning. Good luck to everyone else dealing with this crap x

Oh yes Happy, me too! They come up in "Active" and I click on them and get huffy. Ridiculous.

Oh, talking of planning when to have babies..... I had to interupt a conversation a few months ago between two of my lady colleagues as it wound me up so much. 'A' has 2 daughters in their 20's. One daughter had a baby few months ago. 'B' asked 'A' when daughter 2 was gonna sprog as recently married. 'A' said they had a big holiday coming up so after they got back. And 'B' was like 'oooooo a November baby then, better not leave it another month and be due round Xmas"! I just saw red and said "it doesn't work like that you know!". Then 'B' proceeded to ask me when I was going to sprog too! And oooo I should have a boy coz my sister had girls! Omg! How naive!

I ended up confiding in 'A' about our infertility and how hearing stuff like that was too much for me and could she say something to 'B' so she'd stop asking me about babies. Later on that day 'B' came and apologized and said she felt like shit about it. Good, coz I don't like her anyway. Hrumph.

Grrrr - that would have driven me mad, Victoria!! We started TTC#1 on our honeymoon (nearly 2 years ago) and I'm so fed up of the questions now ...

OP I totally agree. In the time we've been trying, some of my friends have had two babies. One friend recently commented on another who was pregnant saying "why would you have your baby in August, why not plan better and have it in September/October" (as she had managed - twice) because some peoe really are just that fertile they can get pregnant to order. Bit my tongue really hard on that one. Fuckers.

I'd have struggled to not lose it at that comment Potatoes!

HappyAmbler - completely understand. There are times when I feel like just screaming why me?!? What bugs me is the uncertainty of it all. Not knowing if it will happen or not with or without assistance. I just want to know whether I should start planning adoption a life without children! sigh

I hate it, everyone I know that started trying for number 1 when we started trying for number 2 (just over 3 years ago now) is onto their second pregnancy. I'm sick of hearing that the only baby decision people have to make is whether to try or not. I have a follow up next week where we'll be told IVF is our last remaining option, I'm a pretty bitter person currently as a result.

I'm sick of people moaning that they tried for 'ages' i.e 3 months before falling pregnant, of women moaning that they didn't expect to fall pregnant on their first month and now don't know how they'll afford it. I'm even jealous of people who fall pregnant out of one night stands, how sad is that? they could be riddled with stds but all I can think of is how they're not taking horrible meds, sticking pillows under their bums or trying to remember to stick a thermometer in their hooha.

Is it early enough for gin? of course the doctor would say it hampers fertility but in the above scenario it's actually a requirement.