Gutted after lap and dye result

[Anna821]

Hello everyone,

This is my first post since joining and I apologise in advance for it being ridiculously long. I arrived here tonight as a member after longtime lurking during my 2 plus years of TTC. I have spent every month of this time scouring the internet for early pregnancy symptoms, then googling every fertility test known to man following our referral to fertility clinic and even took to researching lap and dye success stories (and watching the actual procedure on YouTube-yack!) whilst waiting for this appointment.

All our previous tests have come back normal. Whilst in recovery after lap and dye, the surgeon briefly explained that results weren't good and there was damage noted (I presume to tubes?) but that he would discuss properly at follow up appointment. To say the least I was gutted:-( I have a 10 year old from a previous relationship (concieved naturally and unexpectedly) so I know I'm blessed to have been a mother-but my husband desperately wants a child of his own (although loves my DS as his own) and I would love my child to have a sibling. Also, no NHS funding for IVF (if IVF is an option) so I've already gone mad googling private treatment. Am I going mad lol?

Anyway, sorry for the rant and if your reading this thanks for sticking it out to the end -I can be long winded.....

Guess I just felt like I needed some support from people in a similar situation and to offload a bit-sorry

Anna xxx

Hi Anna. My situation was partly similar to yours. I got preg naturally first go, but turned out to be ectopic, tube ruptured and had to be removed. After that I couldn't get preg again. Although I didn't have lap and dye tests done, my doctors thought that my other tube was probably knackered too, probably due to age (39). The fertility clinic ran all sorts of tests on DH and I, everything OK, so we had IVF. Successful 2 times out of 3: DS (2.5 yo) and DD (due in 2 weeks).

You're not going mad - it's normal when you really want something that it seems to take up all of your thoughts! I imagine that if the only problem is your tubes, you are a good candidate for IVF. Hopefully you will get some helpful advice at your follow-up appointment.

I have one blocked tube, discovered in a HSG exam. Like you, I also have a child conceived easily and naturally.
After nearly 3 years ttc, we are probably going to have IVF this year. Just trying to scrape together £5k, a massive sum of money to us.

Hi Guin-I bet you can't wait for the arrival of your little bundle and your success story gives me hope

Threepiecesuite-I know the financial side is a big worry-I haven't slept thinking of all the ways I could raise money, and noticed that some clinics offer free treatment if you share your eggs but think I'm not thinking rationally at the moment and am googling everything like a maniac.

It's good to know that I'm not the only one going through this-I feel everyone IRL either feels uncomfortable mentioning it, or feel sorry for us. I know people mean well but it's hard-especially when people in our circle are pregnant/had baby's recently. I feel like infertility has left me and DH in a lonely little place. Good grief I sound so negative today!! Must be the sleep deprivation

Anna x