NHS won't prescribe me clomid

[strangeasangels]

Hi all, I have been TTC for almost 2 years now (I'm almost 33). Have spent the past year having blood tests, a scan and hubby had his sperm tested (he's fine). Finally had my first appointment with a consultant on 24th November.

Sadly he told me they won't help unless I lose weight. My BMI at the appointment was 39. It was pretty soul crushing, having waited so long for the appointment and finally felt I was getting somewhere.

Anyway I joined slimming world immediately and have lost a stone since the appointment. BMI is now 36. To be honest I knew full well I was too fat for IVF but had expected them to at least give me a Fallopian tube scan and prescribe clomid. I didn't know how much I weighed but I am 5'10 and have a large frame, so even when I was a size 12 and at my thinnest my BMI was overweight.

Anyway, it has taken almost a month for me to get into the mental state where I feel I can post on here! I have a friend at work going through the same thing but she's been TTC a year less and now got clomid, I am so scared she'll be telling me she's pregnant any time soon (I know this makes me a bitch, I'd be happy for her obviously but I know I would feel terrible).

I am pretty sure I am not ovulating because I am overweight and have too much oestrogen and no progesterone. Scan showed I don't have PCOS/endo. I was on the pill for 13 solid years and can't help feeling that could be a factor too.

Anyway.... My question is, how do I get clomid as I think that could work for me? Would a private clinic help me or am I still too fat? Does anyone have any recommendations of this? I have another 4 stone to go and I don't feel I can cope with such a long wait again for the NHS.

Thank you if you made it this far! :)

Bloody spammers. Buying clomid online is seriously dangerous.

This is an old thread. Wonder if op lost weight / got preg

For her or anyone else reading yes private clinics are more flexible with bmi. Think it's 35. Mine was 32 when I got preg /did private ivf

They weighed me. Hinted would be good to lose weight but didn't say anything else

Guess has NHS resources /budgets are in demand that they make people lose weight to prove they are serious about wanting to become preg /have ivf etc

Anyone bought Clomid off the internet?

I feel for you, honestly I really do, I have been in a similar position (I wasn't eligible for any NHS fertility treatment but even if I was, my BMI at 37 would have been too high). I've brought it down now but my husband having a child means no treatment!

That being said, there is a significantly lower chance that the treatment will work when you are obese, and the NHS cannot waste resources. It feels like a smack in the face but it's really not personal. You will need to bring your BMI down to under 30. And I know exactly how you feel about even at your slimmest not being a 'healthy' weight because I am the same (I was a size 10 and still my BMI was 27!) but there's a big difference between your healthy weight with a BMI of 27 and what you are at the moment.

I'm not saying this to demotivate you, I know losing weight is hard and that it's shit that you feel time is running out. It is horrible. But there is a good reason they won't give you the treatment yet - there's not a good chance of it working and you having a safe pregnancy.

OH BOLLOCKS it's a zombie thread.