Anyone else feel like they're grieving when it doesn't work?

[BuffyTy]

We decided to have one crack at the whip, so to speak. After much emotional and physical turmoil, it didn't work. It's the end of the road, so I have to tell myself to be thankful for all I have already...and I'm sure, in time, I'll pull myself together, get on with it all and be truly grateful for everything that is good in my life. Right now, it's tough and I feel as though I'm grieving for something I never had. Strange to feel bereaved when nothing actually lived, but that is what it feels like. Anyone else out there feel similar?

Agree if you get as far as transfer it feels like a miscarriage. Still thinking if the due date etc (which would have been about 8 weeks).
Its like life takes a completely different path between baby or no baby.

Yes. It's really hard and I think probably more so when you know it's the last go. We promised ourselves two cycles and we had a frosty so we had a bonus FET. The first fresh cycle and the FET failed and we are just gearing up to go for our second fresh cycle. I'm not sure how I feel. There was a lot going on in our lives besides IVF last time, but the failure of the FET cycle hit me like a freight train. I almost don't want to do that to myself again, but then again, I don't want to stop without doing all that I can. I am terrified that the last cycle won't work because then I will have to face the fact that we are at the end of the road.
Sending you a hug. It is a grief - the loss of your hopes and dreams xxx

I could have written your exact post. What you have posted is exactly how I have been feeling and almost wanting to scream at people who keep telling me 'it will happen', 'dont stress so much' and so on and so forth. I don't think even my husband can quite grasp how deeply devastated and broken I have been feeling month after month. Nothing prepares you for the depth of emotion, other than month on month of failure. Sending you big hugs, you are not alonexxxx

Thank you for your comments and my thoughts are with you Naty, Purple and Eddie. Things are starting to feel better day by day but every time I log into facebook and see the news of another pregnancy or photos of someone else's baby it puts me right back to square one. I just wish there was something else to be done to make it all better or change the outcome.

Oh yes I certainly do, had a failed IVF cycle in July and it hit me like a train for weeks afterwards it definitely is grieving. We have a plan now to try again but im waiting until after Xmas to give us the extra time to heal and be ready to go through it all again

I absolutely agree, and thank you for writing this, I thought I was the only one who felt the loss after a cycles not working. I have had two early miscarriage and it feels similar because its the hope and all the thoughts of what could be. I've been trying to nor think about it as much stop planning when due date would be if it worked ect. But I don't know how not to think about it 24/7 when its all I want. Ohh well trying to distract myself with TV unrelated to babies... Back to flea market flip or sci-fi channel.