Is this the right place ?? Newbie needing help/advice please

[NanaaBananaaaZ]

Hellooo I'm not sure where to start tbh

After just over 3 years of trying to conceive I finally took the plunge and went to see my GP today after finally admitting their must be something wrong .
In the time we have been trying to conceive I have not fallen pregnant once , I have no idea what could be wrong as their is no family history of anything at all .

Do has already been checked out and everything is fine and dandy with him , so its me .

I don't smoke or drink , I am over weight as my GP kindly pointed out today 5"4 15st & my bmi is 37 also 38hh chest , he told me to come back in 4 months time when I have lost 2st as he can't refer me until then, though I'm having blood tests done next week to see if anything shows up as he seemed concerned that I have regular monthly cycles iyswim .

I feel rather deflated as it was a huge step for me to finally admit their was something wrong & now been told they can't help me yet just sucks tbh .

The only reason for my weight gain is because of some medication I were on 2 years ago , I don't eat much at all so can't cut down on the little I am eating & can't excersize due to bad back from huge boobs .

So what can I do or should I just call it quits as that's how I'm feeling right now as my GP didn't give me any advice or even the slightest idea of what could be wrong

Can anybody talk me out of giving up before I even get started ?

Hello nanaa,

Sorry for what you're going through. Infertility sucks and it's so hard when GPs aren't supportive.

Do you do basal body temp to check when you ovulate etc?

As someone who's been ttc for a long time and has had two mcs I know that they are always looking to brush you off and you do have to stand firm. If there is a lady GP at your practice ask to see her and see if she will refer you to a conultant for some help. Women tend to be more understanding.

With regards to your weight, it will impact on your fertility and while your waiting I would try your very best to lose some if you can. I know it's hard but even just getting a stone off would have an impact. If your GP won't help with fertility now will they refer you to a dietician / supported exercise programme? Where I live you can get access to free sessions in parks etc and it doesn't have to be anything too hard going just a chance to get active outdoors. I find it to be great socially too!!

I wish you all the best and have to say DONT GIVE UP.

Hugs to you xxxx

I'm sorry to hear about your problems, infertility is like a curse and it can feel like like your life is ruined. Well that's how I feel anyway.

I had to get my BMI down to below 30 before they would refer me for IVF so I feel your pain.

Seems like you have two choices here. Remain overweight and accept childlessness. There is nothing wrong with not having kids but you have to be able to look back in ten years time and be ok with your choices.

Or, you can get yourself to somewhere like slimming world and do something about it. If you desperately want a baby you have to work for it. IVF is a difficult journey but if you want a baby the reward far out weighs the hardship.

Sometimes I want to give up but I know I would have huge regrets that I would struggle to live with. You need to make that choice now.

It's quite a small community on here so you will get lots of support and advice, you don't need to do this alone :)

Thankyou