First GP appointment

[littlemissy12345]

Hi all,

I know this may seem a long time ago on your journeys but I was hoping for some advice please. We've been trying for #2 for a year now, albeit 2 miscarriages and its been 6 months since the last miscarriage and I'm over 36 so I'm off to the docs tomorrow.

What on earth do I ask for/say? I'm fairly convinced I'm ovulating (+ve OPK's and temp shifts) and BD at the right time, should I take my charts with me? Is the doctor going to say go away?

1st pregnancy and subsequent miscarriages I've fell pregnant withing 2 months each time so I honestly do think I need checking.

If anyone has any tips or experience I would be really grateful.

Thank you

Hi Littlemissy,
I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages, that must be really tough. I haven't been in your situation as I've never been pregnant, and I'm sure some women who have had similar experiences will be able to offer more targeted advice.

But after a few years of trying, and LOTS of doctors appointments, I would say ask as many questions as you can and make sure you write things down. Even if it seems completely obvious, write it down, and ideally use the same notebook so you can refer back to it at your next apt (ie not just writing on scraps of paper). That's really been a life saver for me.

On the charts, I find each doctor reacts differently. So bring them along, make it clear that this is something you do and you find useful (I found it reassuring to know that I was ovulating each month), but don't be too put off if your doctor is a bit dismissive.

Also, try to ask "what then" questions, to make sure that you have the longer vision - I've walked out of doctors' surgeries several times, only to realise that I had no idea why I was taking a test, what the results would tell us or what would happen next.

Best of luck!

Sorry for what you're going through. Mc and infertility is a heartbreaking combination.

I think this is great advice from Rumples. We've been ttc for 5 years and doctors can all too often send you away.

I wish I'd just asked to see a specialist or be refered to a woman's hospital much sooner as the GP did tests but knew very little about the subject. If they are taking tests id ask if you can have them interpreted by a suitable consultant.

Good luck, stand firm!!! X