Babies, babies everywhere...

[worriedmum100]

I don't normally let this bother me and over the last 2 years of unsuccessfully ttc dc2 have been genuinely happy for other up-duffed friends and family and people with new babies.

But this week has been a bit too much. SIL and close friend announced pregnancies and another close friend gave birth today. I just want to type this, have a cry and say once on here what I can't say in real life - it's not fair! When will it be my turn?

There. Said it.

Will return to smiley happy congratulating person now.:-D

[MrsGAT]

Am totally with you, you poor thing.
We're still TTC no.1, been trying for a year and a half now, during which 4 of my friends, one of my sisters and my sister in law have all had babies. At the weekend, I had a horribly late AF (with 4 days of excitement let-down obv) then found out my other sister is now also pregnant with her 3rd ("accidentally on purpose" - to make things even better!)
As you say - not fair. Have spent the whole w/e crying and thinking that, but now just trying to keep positive.
Trying not to sound like a total hippy, I just keep thinking there must some sort of plan and that somehow things will work out - i guess we just have to keep the faith
Really good luck with it all
xxx

[threepiecesuite]

Oh same here. I'm waiting on an appt for a hycosy after 2.5 years unsuccessfully ttc#2. In the time we've been trying, 31 of my friends, acquaintances and colleagues have had a baby. Some have had 2. One has had 3.
It is utterly utterly shit. A v close colleague announced her second today. I had to pretend to go the stock cupboard, just couldn't hold back the tears.
I'm happy for them all but each one was like a punch in the face.

[threepiecesuite]

In the 2.5 years we've been ttc#2, 31 of my friends and colleagues have had a baby. Some have had 2. One has had 3.
Each one was like a punch in the face.
It is utterly shit. I get so down about it.
I hope all of our luck changes soon.

[Happilymarried155]

Me too worried, it's so heartbreaking, frustrating and upsetting but don't worry we will get there and it will be all the more special when we do xx

[worriedmum100]

Thanks ladies

Hi happily how are things going for you right now?

I know logically that someone else's pregnancy has no bearing on my inability to get pregnant but every announcement or birth makes me feel further and further away from our own. That probably doesn't make sense. I think it's to do with time moving on and away from you or something.

I'm probably in impatient mode. Had laporoscopy and endo treatment 3 weeks ago but cycle all messed up now. Just got to wait for that smiley face before cracking on ....

[Ficidy]

This is horrible. We are 2 months away from another IVF cycle (conceived our ds via IVF in 2012. It was a long journey, which, to me, still isn't over).

Last night, literally in the space of 10 minutes, I had phonecalls announcing two pregnancies! This may seem very selfish, but I am genuinely happy for couples who I know have struggled, but I feel such resentment I feel towards people who had it easy. I never used to be like this. I feel like this whole situation has changed me and I don't like it one bit.

[Happilymarried155]

We are doing ok thanks worried, in the middle of our first ivf at the moment, seems to be going to plan at the moment but you never really know do you! It's all fish to luck really!

Hope your cycles sort themselves out soon, what's your next step after this? X

[worriedmum100]

Sorry you're having a hard time ficardy. You're right about it changing you. Good luck with your next cycle.

I'm glad things are progressing along the right lines Happily. After the lap I felt excited like we had a clean slate but now we're back trying again I have that dread back in the pit of my stomach that we still won't get our bfp. I think once you've struggled ttc will never feel fun or exciting, just worrying and endlessly disappointing. Trying to be positive though but deep down can't believe we'll ever get there :-(

[Happilymarried155]

I know, I said to DH the other day that I can't wait to be 'normal' and not have a constant grey cloud hanging over me, have to rule my life against hospital appointments and constantly taking drugs, watching what I eat and drink etc..!
The only thing that stops me going into major depression is feeling that it will happen, I can't believe it won't otherwise il be too sad. Have you tried Accupuncture, that really helps chill me out!

I'm really sorry I can't remember you situation now? X

[worriedmum100]

I did do accupuncture for a while but stopped after early mc in February (after first IUI was successful). I just wanted to forget about ttc for a while. My second IUI failed in April, then they found the endometriosis which I've now had treated. Will probably try for a couple of months on our own then go back for 3rd IUI, then IVF. Makes me so tired just thinking about it!

[Happilymarried155]

I remember now, our circumstances are nearly identical with regards to treatment and a miscarriage. I'm just slightly ahead. I have thought a few times about taking a break from it all, but I don't think I honestly could-it would always be in the back of my head! If you get to ivf it hasn't been as bad as I imagined, I really did fear the worst, I think starting off on iui really helps x

[Jelliebabe2]

I look after h&s at work so I look after all the pregnant ladies. I have bloody 8 at the mo. Mostly I'm fine with it. But blimmin heck I've just had a very early miscarriage and it's a bit much! I'm happy for them, but I want me some of that too ITS NOT FAAAAAAAAIIIIIIRRRRR!

[HandbagCrazy]

worriedmum100 thank you so much for this thread. You wrote the post I've wanted to write for a few months. I've been ttc for a year with pcos and it's been getting me down. As I got diagnosed my closest friend announced she got pregnant by accident. I have another friend due any day, another due in July and SIL announced she is 13 weeks a few days ago (after trying for an entire month).
Lovely for them but a really horrible part of me just thinks god it's so unfair, why not me?

• I am aware them having babies and me not being pregnant are unconnected but it upsets me all the same, no matter how pleased for them I am

[allylara]

Hi all im new to all this but im finding this hard too... not only family and friends constantly asking when were going to start trying (weve been ttc without anyone knowing) but people having babies left right and centre ahhhhh!!!

[mawinter]

Another thanks for this post! Been feeling this way for a few weeks now. Everywhere I look every one seems to be pregnant. Makes it even harder to look at these women, since the clinic has benched us for a bit while I recover from surgery. :/

[Verkey81]

OMG -I totally agree with this post and every comment on it! I had to walk out of a meal the other week (pretended to go to the toilet) as everyone was talking about when to have their next children and what month they want to have them in - month?? just in my lifetime would be good! It's so hard not to cry and to stay smiling and pleased for everyone. Weekends are full of Christenings and celebrating new babies, now I just found out from one best friend that my other best friend is trying and plans to be pregnant by Christmas - I asked her the other day and she told me not yet, so is she just hiding it from me?! Is it that obvious I can't handle it! arrrrghhh!

[sam9700]

Even I am suffering wih same thing. Sometimes when I watch pregnant women I wonder how every body els get pregnant so easily..thn y not mehhhh????? :( :( cant share ths with my in laws and my very own family. So joined hereto share with u guys..:(:( really upset...