Anyone at the beginning?

[stepmama84]

Hi,
I'm relatively new to posting on here. Although I do like to read the threads.
I don't understand all the abbreviations so bare with me.

I have been trying ttc for about 18months now.
Compared to a lot of you on here that must seem like no time at all, but to me it feels like a lifetime.
I don't even know where to begin with all the thoughts and feelings of my situation, I have no one to be completely raw and honest with; I'm too scared to speak to my husband too frequently and honestly, best friend lives in London, mother is useless, dad is great but I don't want to bother him too much. Even writing on here scares me. I don't want anyone I know realising it's me.

I have a wonderful, full life with a loving husband and step son.
I have always wanted children and when I met 'the one' it was like a dream come true. Everything fell into place. In a year and a half I had had a perfect wedding and honeymoon. We moved into a gorgeous home, had my step son come and live with us where he got into an amazing private school and is really thriving.
The relationship with his mum is crap as you can imagine, or any step mum who loves her step kid can empathise with.
To make it worse she is pregnant with her latest bf and sending truly awful texts about our situation which I'm sure she has just figured out.

Husband didn't think there was a problem, but understood I wanted to do something so for peace of mind I went for blood tests end of last year , they all came back clear. I had acupuncture recommended so I started having that as well.
Finally last month he agreed enough time had passed and we sent off a sample from him, I had all my tests done. The doc said it was all clear and because I don't fit the over 35 yr old and been trying for 3 yrs criteria they won't investigate further.

Husband said we could go privately so I have an appointment next week for the scans to make sure I have no blockages etc. Then a consultation beginning of June to discuss the results and see what our options are.

Just came on yesterday after putting my all into this last cycle, praying that I really wouldn't be in this situation and it will happen for me. My chest just aches all the time.

Really I'm hoping there is someone in a similar situation to me to talk to or someone that can say something other than 'just relax' or 'it will come when the time is right'.

Step - there are lots of people who are in similar situations to you on mumsnet and want to support you. I am so sorry that things have not worked out the way you wanted them to so far.
I post regularly on a page on the conception board (not sure how to post a link whilst on my phone) but it is called "TTC longer than 10 months staying positive and supporting each other"
You would be most welcome to join us.
Glad you are moving forward with your investigations.
I have been TTC for a year (#1) with no luck at all.

Thank you Jesse, I have just found that thread! Have just pasted the above on it.
Thank you
(smile)

I hate it when people say "relax and it will happen" they are naive idiots!
18 months of trying is long enough. If you can afford it go private. If not nag your doctor for a referral, you need them to look further into things. Depending on what they find it could be a long road ahead and why wait?
I'm not sure what you meant by the criteria? I needed to have been trying for 2 years so naturally I lied

Hi suzylee, I was told by my gp I needed to be over 35 and trying for 3 yrs! and she wouldn't send me for scans.
Yes I've gone private now. Just got as many tests on the nhs as possible to save some cash….. sneaky fibbing to the Gp, I like it (smile)

Hiya - I'm in a similar situation, under 35 and blood/sperm tests came back clear. Please go back to your GP and nag them! The latest criteria is trying for 2 years, but our GP has referred after 1 year. Your GP MUST refer you on to a fertility clinic. Otherwise, most clinics have self referral forms and you can fill in it yourself. Goodluck! Am going to check out the conception thread too. You will be fine xx

hi i'm starting my first and only ivf cycle using donor sperm and donor eggs, had the scratch yesterday and started injections too, which wasn't too bad although the scratch was very painful it will hopefully all be worth it in the end, so fingers crossed!

It's rubbish, when you really feel you've done all you could have...and af arrives anyway. Good luck with the scans and the consultation. Hope it works out and the get themselves sorted. This constant waiting is what annoys me personally the most.

You are further on than I am, though. We've been trying 'properly' since January last year (although the 10 years of unprotected,...but infrequent sex didn't result in pregnancy, either). I went to the GP today. Where is yours getting the idea that you've got to be over 35 and already done three years?
I just went in to get the ball rolling today. My cycles are regular and normal, I appear to ovulate (smiley faces on ov stick are quite predictable every month), not overweight and very healthy. So my GP couldn't think of anything that might be wrong. I'll be having my bloods done next cycle, because I'm already beyond cd21 this time round, just to make sure I am actually ovulating. If they come back clear, we'll do a few more tests (HIV - should be negative, syphilis - aehm,...don't think so...and diabetes - definitely not, had it checked a few years ago)...and then possibly get DH checked out, which he is really not keen on. If all is clear, we'll get a referral to the fertility clinic,...at 2 years. January next year is currently my cut-off point. If I can't conceive, I'd like to know, so that we can finally go down the adoption route. At the moment, it feels like I'm in limbo.

I miscarried my first pregnancy last summer and had lots of blood tests and scans done back then, so there are a few things that we can rule out already. I don't really expect them to find anything wrong with me. For the moment, GP has just advised me to keep trying.

Hello everyone, I didn't realise I had had so many responses they didn't show up on my phone :/
Where is everybody up to?

step! Not seen u on the 10 months plus thread for ages! Come back and update us, we're all still there!