Feeling fed up and have so much to be thankful for ?

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I feel really selfish, I have a beautiful 6 year old and TTC is taking over all my thoughts. I know how lucky I am but still so desperate for another baby.
Been trying with DP for 3 years and I don't seem to be able to give him biological child
Tests all fine to date his sperm count low but as we have had 5 mc they won't explore further.
This month monitor has not even given me a high so no ovulation? Feeling poo!
Sorry very selfish rant but feel if anyone could understand it would be on here. X

It's not selfish, and 5 mc must be so heartbreaking.
It's hard to not let TTC become all consuming. I had to give up on temps and monitors as it was having too great an impact on everything else in my life.
I have no advice as such, just empathy. I have a 2 year old after IVF and would desperately love another. It's tough, and you are not selfish.

Falling- sorry you know the feeling too. It's really hard as friends and family are too busy with life to even notice that 3 years on we have no bundle. My daughter is our world however a biological child for my DP would be lovely too and sibling for daughter, I was one of 3 and always dreamed off 3 myself. I can't understand how many just get pregnant and how we (you and I) don't. I tried for 3 years for dd but no cm before hand. Surely something must be wrong with me? Surely nothing is unexplainable?
Do you mind me asking about your IVF? X

I thought you can get referred after 3?
I also get no cm but i have pcos, not sure if thats related.
But did get some with evening primrose oil before ovulation and also now on metformin for pcos.
Sometimes couples are just unexplained my DSis and partner tried for years , albeit over 35. But success twice now with icsi.
Reasons for miscarriage...
Pcos
Thyroid
Age so increased chance of chromosomal abnormalities.
Bad luck as they are relatively common
Im sure there are others

Have you had thyroid tested as this can go after having a baby.

I have had thyroid, clotting, chromosome bloods all were fine.
I had the standard 21 day test
Had a smear for all gynae infections, a scan internal and external.
All ok
DP had sperm tested x 3 as low sperm count, keep being told not related to MC's so won't do anything about it.
I am paying privately for NK cells testing next month as feel my only other possible problem?
No one has ever offered cloned so never been treated with this as we seem to have 6/12 between each miscarriage which they have said just bad luck I feel like this every time I hear just bad luck ! I am now taking a load of supplements recommended in a conceiving and preventing miscarriage book.
Just feel like I have lost all hope, but in next breath I feel like yay I am fine lets get on with it!

We're in the "unexplained" group. Everything should be fine but it's obviously not. We've had 2 cycles of IVF now. First time I didn't expect much but we got really lucky and now have our son. We tried again but weren't so lucky. Now we are aiming for a 3rd and final attempt. I'm trying to be positive but can't help feeling it's doomed.

We will have to pay for IVF so big thing for us to have cost and mentally. Was wondering what your thoughts were on us as we keep mis carrying in seems pointless to try as would we still miscarry? Can they put back when stronger to take? I have read about Icsi also wondered if this would help given we miscarry maybe there is something wrong with our faetus?

Falling I wish you all the luck from the bottom of my heart that your 3rd attempt will bless you with another gorgeous healthy child x

Falling asleep - on the positive side whatever the reason it can be fixed by ivf as you have been successful.

My DH has less than 1m and no miscarriages so think that would be unlikely to be an issue. Though due to such a low count he did get tested for cystic fibrosis and couple of other things known to cause low counts
But guess its possible that if there are less of them whatever is causing there to be less could also cause bad quality dna ones. Because you are getting pg i assume it is not that low.

Sometimes thyroid can be out but the levels gp uses are not what a fertility clinic would use eg my tsh was 4 which gp said no action but fertility clinic want under 2.5. So sometimes its useful to get a printout of your results with the reference ranges.