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IVF abroad. Bring 1 year old son?

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Ficidy · 02/05/2014 20:40

We'll be returning to Prague for another round of IVF in the summer. We'll be there for at least a week. I want to bring our baby boy who will be nearly one. My dh thinks it'd be too stressful having him there. I think it'd be more stressful leaving him behind. Anyone have any experience of this?

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jkklpu · 03/05/2014 20:31

It's not clear that the IVF treatment part is relevant, here: it's a week away from your baby. Who would be with him? Has he had a night away from you before? Are you still bfing? I'd have thought the answer to these questions would decide how stressful it would be to think of your wee boy not being with you. Is there an option to take another adult with you who could be with your son in the daytime while you and your husband were busy?

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Ficidy · 03/05/2014 21:36

We had one night away from him when we had to go to a wedding when he was 4 months old. I really feel like I couldn't be away from him for more than one night, but my husband thinks we'd be better off going without him, as he is still waking a lot at night and can be cranky with teething. I think I'd miss him too much though. The only thing is that I can react badly after egg collection and I don't know how I'd cope with looking after him if I was sick.

Unfortunately, it is not possible for anyone to come with us. My parents would take care if him if we have to leave him.

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BrownysMrs · 04/05/2014 19:57

Of course after your EC you'll be sore and yucky but if DH is there what's the issue with him doing the baby bit? My DH is absolutely amazing (we are both in the army and away from home a lot) & does a fantastic job with our kids when I'm away but let's face it, as with most parts of life, the male involvement with an IVF cycle is pretty minimal!!

wouldbemedic · 05/05/2014 21:12

I'd bring him. It's not a big deal having a baby in a hotel - just like a holiday really. We brought our toddler to Czech for the same purpose recently, no bother.

Waggamamma · 06/05/2014 07:51

My friend took her 6yr old to Spain, whilst she was having ivf (completely different from a baby I know). Her dad took her to the zoo for the day whilst she was at the clinic.

It's not appropriate to take children to an ivf clinic. That's not to say he couldn't go with you to Prague, but dp would need to be responsible for him and be prepared for them to do things out and about without you while you do the ivf stuff.

WorrisomeHeart · 09/05/2014 14:09

We're looking at Gennet for IVF and I was wondering the same re our 3.5yr old. On the day of the EC, I'm presuming he could come to the clinic and stay with me while DH gives the sample, and then they head off somewhere until after I've had the EC? Or is that being naive?

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