Infertility
2 Ectopics caused by chlamydia
sarah00001 · 15/04/2014 20:31
Hi, I'm currently being treated with methotrexate for an ectopic in my right tube. Last year I had an ectopic in my left tube which was treated surgically (salpingostomy). Having 2 ectopics has put me at very high risk of another so my only hope now is IVF. I believe the cause of my ectopics is having had chlamydia for around 9 months when I was younger. I've been suffering from very bad depression due to the ectopics and failure to have a child and the constant worry and anxiety. This current ectopic is taking a very long time to resolve even though i have had two doses of methotrexate. I know that if it doesnt resolve I face surgery.
I literally feel that chlamydia has destroyed my life. Ive always wanted children and beat myself up on a daily basis that a stupid mistake when i was younger has very possibly robbed me of the chance to have a child . I also feel like i still carry the infection in my body, even though it was treated, due to the damage it has caused. I have often felt suicidal since experiencing my first ectopic. I am soon to turn 38 and i know that the chance of ivf working is low. In addition I worry that my damaged tubes will reduce the chance of ivf working since blocked tubes sometimes contains a toxic fluid.
I feel so low and don't know what to do. It seems like I'm not meant to have a child.
Sarah
Liquoriceallsort · 15/04/2014 22:02
Sorry to hear that Sarah, what a rough road. IVF is the best route and you only need one embryo to make a baby. Your time will come, there is no point beating yourself up about the past, no one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. Lots of people who have had chlamydia go on to have children and you will be one of them!
Lots of women on this board are going through IVF so hopefully you will find the support you need.
sarah00001 · 17/04/2014 00:31
Thank you for your reply Liquoriceallsort, I really appreciate your positive words of encouragement.
Jellytots85 · 20/04/2014 13:59
Hi
Just came across this thread, I myself have exactly the same problem caused by chlaymedia I also have pcos Ivf is the best route, anything is possible. I had my tubes removed last year the specialists told me this would be the best chance of ivf working, it was scary and you need lots of support I have just failed my second attempt of ivf we have one left and I'm not going to give up, I feel your heartache I really do bit don't give up .
Xx
sarah00001 · 20/04/2014 15:20
Dear Jellytots85, I'm so sorry this has happened to you too. It's very hard for my partner too, as he knows its due to an ex boyfriend that we have all these problems. I hate him so much, as he was apparently unfaithful when we were together and I'm also annoyed at myself for going out with him in the first place. When I told the consultant however he said that loads of women have it and don't know it, and I shouldn't beat myself up about it. Can I ask why you needed to have your tubes removed? I have heard that having your tubes removed can make IVF more successful. I really do hope that the third cycle of IVF works for you. Is there anything that can be done to help improve your pcos?
Sarah
Jellytots85 · 20/04/2014 15:38
I can understand all your resentment towards your ex partner mine was my first boyfriend who I lost my virginity too I had mine for about 9 months too back then they really didn't speak much about chlaymedia, he has gone on to have a child they don't even realise the mess they make of people's life's, they removed my tubes because like they said to you about the poisonous fluid it can wash away the embryo or can have eptopic pregnancies still. The cysts can cause me to have poor quality eggs but this time we had a blastocyst which was fantastic a strong embryo but just didn't take.
Do you get free ivf in your area Sarah I really believe you are in with such a chance of getting pregnant don't think your too old it can work you've wanted children so bad you have lots of hope, my mum had my youngest sister when she was 41, least you can live with the fact you tried. If this time fails I am considering adoption, so many babies out there that need us as much as we need them.
Lots of hugs
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