Fear of miscarriage due to primary amenorrhea?

[saz464]

Hi, first post on here. I looked for a similar thread to what I wanted to ask but they all seemed to have died? Just looking for some advice from someone who might have gone through similar. Or perhaps some encouragement from a mum who might know more than myself.

Basically I would like to start fertility treatment for my primary amenorrhea but I have been told the risk of miscarriage is high. And I do not personally know anyone who has had the treatment so I can't ask if that is true. After what I have read about miscarriage, I am positive that I could not bear going through one. But my partner is very keen to at least try once (even if it does result in miscarriage) because he believes we have to at least give it one go?

Will I regret it? Is a miscarriage dreadful beyond belief? Is it worth going through one to have a positive pregnancy? etc

I have had three pregnancy's the 1st my ds was born and has been the most amazing person I have ever met.
The second I lost at 6 weeks not much pain and we decided not to try again as our son was having medical issues at the same time.
The third I lost at 9 weeks it was painful and I was an emotional wreck for a month but I have gotten over it and we do want another we are not actively trying or preventing.
Our ds had special needs so we trying to figure out when the best time to fully try again but we wouldn't mind if it happened now or a few years down the line.
People cope with mc's in their own ways no two people can or even two mc's make people react in the same way. I would try stay positive if you do fall pregnant to try stop yourself stressing out (that is hard) but having a baby is the most amazing experience I have had in my life and would love to have another but only time will tell.