azoospermia

[Pixie001]

DH and I have found out after ttc for 18mths that he doesn't produce any swimmers so we're not gonna be able to have kids of our own. Grief, depressed and hopeless about it all. Any suggestions for how to cope?

Hi there, oh bless you, i do feel for you. I'm not in this situation myself but i have have some close friends who are in a similar situation to yours and your husband's. They are a couple in their 20s and have been trying to conceive for around the same amount of time as you. I think they thought that the problem was with the girl but after tests, the man has just been found to have no sperm at all. So they will never have achild of their own. They are both devastated, especially the girl, as she has always dreamed of having a big family. They got the diagnosis acouple of months ago and they have been very depressed. At the moment they are trying to look at the positives and are considering sperm donation. They have been told they can have a child this way within a couple of years. Also, they are looking to the adoption route. I can't begin to imagine the pain which you must be going through but perhaps after a while maybe these options might be something to consider in future xx

Hi Pixie,

DH was confirmed as suffering from azoospermia almost 20 years ago. The hospital tried so hard in the procedure to double check that he came home in a wheelchair and had 2 months off work from the pain. He did try acupuncture but this didn't work due to raised hormones.

We are now in the process of going overseas next month for a double donation of embryo and sperm. I have a degenerative inherited disease that will see me in a wheelchair within 15 years or so which made us decide this. In my mind -and I totally understand that some people won't understand this comment - I didn't want the baby to be biased towards me

It took us a decade to get our heads around my not being able to see what our biological child would look like. Youre allowed to cry, get angry, you have to grieve, the nurses gave me some great advice.....give time time.