Not sure I should post this, but here goes...

[Boobybeau]

I will probably get crucified for posting this here but I think I deserve the crucifixion and didn't know where would be appropriate to post it.

I do have a tendency to say the wrong things and rub people up the wrong way unintentional and I really hope this comes across in the way it's intended as I've been an utter dick and I'd like to apologise to anyone going through infertility isses on behalf of anyone who has been as insensitive as I may have been tonight.

At my friends birthday celebrations I was talking to a group of people that I don't really know. Right at the start, one of the men said 'well we never had children so wouldn't know ' and then said a few other things that implied that they couldn't have children rather then chose not to. I could be wrong of course but at that moment I decided to limit the children talk as I thought it would be insensitive but some how the conversation just kept coming round to them and I now feel like I have been an insensitive moron.

So if any one has ever left a social gathering of insensitive knobs like me and been frustrated at their ignorance, im so sorry and just think that they're probably like me and hate themselves when they get home for say such stupid things. I just wish I could stop myself talking sometimes as the last thing I would want to do is upset anyone and cause offence.

There's no justification for this and i feel awful so please feel free to take out your anger on me if you have been in any situation like this and you have left feeling like you could slap the dick who didn't think before opening their big mouths.

Again, I hope this comes across as intended and isn't condescending or anything? I'm just feeling very sorry about my actions.

It wasn't intentional. I assume you didn't say stuff like 'have you and your partner just tried relaxing? I knew someone who did that and they got pregnant once they relaxed'. So it could have been worse.

I don't understand - what did you do?

Ok, I didn't say anything like that, even I wouldn't be that rediculously ignorant. I can't really remember what I did say but I know as I was talking in my head I was saying 'shut up shut up shut up' to myself.
The only thing I can relate it to is I have a disabled child and most of the time I love hearing about my friends 'thriving' children but some times it really gets me down, so I was worrying that this might have been a bit like that.

Oh thank you for being so nice, I was prepared for a roasting. I guess there's still time for someone to take a pop? Maybe I've just been reading too many aibu threads x

Part of me is too scared to write it but mostly I honestly can't remember any examples.
Ok, deep breath...

Probably the worst things I can think of were a conversation involving some other parents about choosing to have more and only just getting our life's back and I said 'if you have one child your misguided, having two is just stupid and any more is insanity' (cring) when I hear people being flippant about their healthy pregnancies it really gets my goat because if my ds so Im very annoyed at myself

Oh it's all coming back to me now. I was also taking about missing caffein while pregnant, which is totally rediculous as I didn't begrudge anything when pregnant with dc2 as I was just preying for a healthy child. I think the way I said it may have been misinterpreted as begrudging my pregnancy

Im so sorry that people say such thoughtless, hurtful things to anyone going though this heartbreak. I just hope that when these tools get home they look back on what they said and feel bloody awful about it and it haunts then for a long time.

I really can't believe people actually say these things?! What world do they live in where that's ok? I can't begin to imagine what some people are going through and I have a pretty big mouth but this is beyond me!