the end?

[nobabe]

my husband and I have been trying to conceive for over 3 years and I told him the other day that I can't do it anymore I'm done crying I'm done worrying all the time I just want to be happy. I always believe that one day it will happen that one day I would be a blessed and I'D be able to be happy.but now I really don't think it's going to happen, I feel like I'm not meant to have a baby,my husband is an only child and only grandchild if he doesn't have a baby it and his family name His blood line and that stresses me out even more. Anyway I had told my husband I didn't want to try anymore and now he wants nothing to do with me sexually I mean. Everything else is normal talk to me but its not trying to have a baby he doesn't want to have sex at all that he wants to stay completely away from sex I don't know if he's thinking that I don't want a baby at all because that's not what it is I'm just tired of the stress I have tried to explain this to him but I don't think he understands... what do I do?

I'm so sorry your feeling like this I totally sympathise, we've been TTC for almost 4 years....have you been to your GP to find out about underlying issues? Your DH possibly thinks YOU don't want sex as you no longer wish to TTC. Can you tell him that you just want to relax and not think about it at all? Thats the stage we're at. I need to loose weight to get treatment but struggle to loose weight due to PCOS and BED. Now we are just having sex! If it happens it happens if not then I'm dealing with my issues to allow fertility treatment in the future.

Also have you considered fostering or adoption?

for you xxx

It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive DD and I do understand that feeling. Have you had investigations and treatments?

I'm slightly over weight but the drs don't see any other problem.. and hubby is all fine

Have you been referred to a specialist? Have they done bloods? Hsg? I would think if it's been 3 years and they can't find any obvious cause they should give you an 'unexplained infertility' diagnosis and possibly over IVF (unless either if you have children from a previous relationship?). They shouldn't just be saying well everything looks ok and leave it at that!

Been To a specialist and had all of that done their only explanation is I'm slightly over weight so my hormones are a little of my cycle is like 39 days but they won't put me on anything to fix it

Have you tried Agnus Castus? I'm sure it helped me conceive my first little man. I had very irregular periods caused by my hormone levels not being quite right. Alongside the Agnus Castus I lost weight and started exercising - my periods went up from 2 to 8 a year and I fell pregnant pretty quickly. Good luck, I do hope you and your hubby can work this out. It's such a stressful process xx