Hi Lucky,
Sorry for the delay. I have been trying to avoid all things maternal during my dreaded 2ww.
I'm UK based so the law has changed things dramatically fro the worse. Our journey started about 15 years ago & we stopped pursuing as it seemed everything was against us. I was battling an eating disorder for decades, then work got in the way so we didn't make it a priority.
When we started on the insemination route about 7 or 8 years ago there was a very short supply. Our hospital gave us a choice of just 3 donors....THREE out of HOW MANY MILLIONS of men??
Each donor can create only 10 viable pregnancies then no more sperm from him is permitted to be used.
We did try the insemination but it failed a few times. Unfortunately I fell into a serious decline mentally & emotionally, my eating disorder returned with a nasty vengeance & it took another 7 years to fight it.
In the meantime, my fertility was in decline.
To cut a long story short, I am now as I said on the 2 ww awaiting to see if this round of IVF has worked. This time we only had a choice of TWO donors.
DH & I opted for the outdoorsy donor with our colouring. I wanted someone who was more up the scale on manners & social skills rather than acadaemia (sp) We rang our 2 local private fertility hospitals. They both only had 2 donors.
If this doesn't work, the egg AND sperm donor route is the only adoption aside from adopting. The waiting list for donor eggs at the hospital we used is 18mths.