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Colleague just found out she will never carry a baby. Best way to handle/what to avoid?

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AngiBolen · 29/01/2013 21:01

She was planning on IVF, but now knows this will be pointless. She isn't in work atm, and won't be for a few weeks, I would imagine.

I know people are telling her "there are options" and "she can adopt", but if someone said these things to me if I were in her position I would want to punch them.

I'm worried that I might be all "How are you, nice weather, going anywhere nice on your holiday?" while ignoring her pain, which I don't want to do. I really want to hug her and cry, which would be stupid in a public work environment. So I was wondering whether I should invite myself round to her house with a bottle of wine (we're not best friends, and I wouldn't usually!)

I so want to do the right thing, but don't know what that is....

HelenMumsnet · 29/01/2013 21:08

Hi AngiBolen.

This topic is really for questions you want/need to ask MNHQ.

Can we move your thread to a better topic for you? There is an Infertility topic. Or you may just prefer to have your thread in the Chat topic.

Do post and let us know - and then we'll move it for you.

HelenMumsnet · 29/01/2013 21:14

OK, we'll move it to Infertility for you. Hope you get some helpful responses and bless you for being so thoughtful about your colleague.

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