Can someone help me please? Male smoking and infertility

[CupOfBrownJoy]

Please can someone recommend a couple of websites to me which detail the effects of smoking on male fertility?

I have heard a lot on here about it, but when I google it myself the stuff I've read seems to indicate that the effect isn't that harmful??

We've been ttc for 6 months now and DP smokes a lot . I'm hoping to guilt him show him the error of his ways....

Thanks in advance

Is he intending to quit if you do manage to conceive? If so, he might as well start now. If not, as well as pointing him at information about fertility issues you might want to widen the guilt trip evidence to include all the harm that passive smoking can inflict to; a developing foetus (BBC report of passive smoking harm to unborn babies 13% increase in birth abnormalities, and 23% increase in still birth for mothers exposed to passive smoking) or a child (NHS article on passive smoking twice as likely to experience cot death, significant increase in serious respiratory problems), not to mention the fact that child bought up around at least one parent who smoke are twice as likely to begin smoking themselves (with all the attendant health implications that that brings).

The impact on fertility will make trying to conceive more difficult, but that an issue that affects only you 2 as parents, the issues around passive smoking impact your child?s health and are therefore much more serious (not wishing to belittle the problems you might be having ttc).

Best of luck with both ttc and trying to get him to quit.

thanks very much Dudad, I really appreciate it.

He gave up for 10 years, but started again a couple of years ago now. He did manage to give up for a month last summer, so I know he wants to, he's just really struggling with it.

I'll have a look at those links and print them off for him.

As a smoker can I pipe in for your DH?

He knows the effects, he knows the statistics, guilt will just make him feel awful and from personal experience not in a constructive way. No one hates a smoker more than him/her self.

Being given leaflets by your DW on why you're an idiot (and as a smoker I can say we're idiots) would be condescending and patronising. I'm assuming you don't keep him under a rock and the leaflets will be nothing he hasn't heard before.

I find once you've tried to quit a few times you come down with the mentality well I failed before I'm probably going to fail now. Perhaps a completely new method would be useful, fresh start, must have been awful for him relapsing after 10 years.

If he's not willing to stop maybe you need to ask how committed he is to having the baby and the babies health.