Not sure if this is the right thread to be posting on but I am looking for some advise on how to help my sister, as she is quietly going off the rails.
We have always been very close and both had children close to each other - Mine are 7 and 5 hers are 6 and 4 - but she always really wanted a large family (her husband is one of 9!) So she has had a rollercoaster 3 years of TTC for baby number 3.
She had 18 months of trying before going private to look further into infertility. She then had a MC, and discovered that after her 2nd CSection part of her fallopian tubes had scarred & fused together, and she has to have an operation to try and get them working again. She then went through months of clomid and eventually went for a round of IVF, as this didn't work she tried to draw a line under it.
She set herself to enjoy the 2 children she already had, she had a tummy tuck (as the 2 CS had left alot of spare tissue) she started going to the gym and generally got her mojo back. Or so it seemed.
Her and her DH had major problems and he left her for a while, although he is back now. He works crazy long hours, and she is often on her own with the kids. She in the last 6 months has totally withdrawn into herself. We have gone from talking to each other or seeing each other every week, to only talking at a push once a month. I ring her and she doesn't answer my messages, I text her often but very rarely get a reply. I even e.mail her to try and keep in touch.
My mum has at the weekend let it slip that my sister has been back to the private clinic again, and is about to undergo another round of IVF - stirred up by her SIL falling preg. a few months ago. I have tried to let my sister know that I am here from her but she hasn't responded atall.
I am worried for her as she has totally cut herself off from family, friends etc. I know it is her journey to take, and obviously it is so emotional and physically draining. I'm not looking for a miracle but practical advise as to what might help support her.