anyone in their 40's with secondary infertility who has given up.....

[paisleyII]

just wondered.....

[galwaygal]

I have tried and failed to give up!

[duchesse]

I did. Was nearly 41 by then. I gave everything away to friends who'd just sprogged. I got pregnant the next month. DD3 is 2.4 and a complete blessing.

[duchesse]

Meant to say we'd been ttc for 6 long and madness-inducing years by the time I got pregnant.

[zebedeethezebra]

Yes, not quite given up but getting to that stage. I was 45 last month. Not sure what to do now, whether to try IVF or not. Have had 2 miscarriages in the last 18 months, the last one was last summer. No luck getting a BFP since.

Am I too old for IVF too??

[Patsy99]

I'm 41 and currently doing IVF but to be honest if this doesn't work I want to call it quits and move on. I don't think my DH agrees, but still.

We've been ttc number 2 for over 3 years, have had two miscarriages and have just spent £12k getting through a single cycle of ivf. I feel like I'm getting to the stage where enough is enough and I'll be ok with moving forward although I definitely have mixed feelings about it.

[Isabel123]

I have been trying to have another child for six long heartbreaking years.During this time I have had five miscarriages.I am now 41 and feel like time has now ran out for me.My period started today and I am feeling really sad despite it being a lovely sunny day!
Before my last miscarriage I thought I was finally coming to terms with having one child but the last loss has thrown me back into deep sorrow about my situation.
I wish I could just give up ttc and move on with my life.I feel because of the state of the world it would be foolish to bring another human into it but selfishly I just can't stop longing for a baby to hold.
I think I will not be able to stop hoping for a miracle child until the dreaded menopause.I so wish I could stop trying now because I don't think I can stand much more infertility stress.I am surrounded by perfect families where I live and the sun brings them all out to play, which rubs salt into my wounds.