difficulty conceiving, could do with understanding and support

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Hello

Its my first post and hoping I have come to the right place. I am struggling to conceive with my second child with a new partner. I had difficulties with the first but managed without intervention in the end. I did have surgery and have medical conditions.
Because of this we have started tests with the Gp and have a hospital referral already even though its been less than a year.
I am finding it stressful already, possibly due to my past issues. Not many friends really understand and this is all new for my partner.

I didn't want to read and not reply, even though I don't have any experience with infertility, but hope that things go to plan for you both, am sure that there will someone along who can help you more.

Hi,

I know what you are going through. My problem is I suffer with recurrent miscarriages, so have no living children. It is very hard for people to understand that you are continually on a merry go round of TTC when it may of been easy for them and they offer advice like just relax.

It is really good that your GP has been so proactive and that you are getting the proper tests done. Hopefully they will be able to find some answers and a plan which always helps. Just wanted to say you are not alone.

Hi,
I have some medical conditions and disabilities which make things difficult to get pregnant and keep a pregnancy. I hope the tests are going well, and that you can be offered some help from the gp. I was finally recently diagnosed with PCOS, and have just started a course of metformin to help. I have had several miscarriages and know the stress and upset the whole situation can be. I was lucky to be blessed with a daughter (against the odds she survived being born at 27wks 1lb 13oz) and my friends think that everything is ok because I have had a child, they just don't get the fact that it's not clear cut and that we may not have enough baby glue for another pregnancy. I just wanted to say that I understand some of what you feel, and that I hope things take a positive turn soon in the way of some treatment.

Hi carrie

We had loads of trouble conceiving (miscarriages, IVF, etc etc) and although we now have 2 children I do remember where you are. I have to say I don't think this kind of discussion is a strength of mumsnet - there are more people in your position at www.fertilityfriends.co.uk and you may get more direct support posting there (although the interface is hideous and there are a fair amount of huns lurking there).