Hello - wasn't sure where to post this so am doing a double dip on 'Conception' and 'Infertility' topics....Sorry to those who may've already read this on 'Conception.
Really hoping someone can help! I am 40 years old and TTC my first child. My husband and I started TTC 7 months ago and since then I have had a catalogue of horrendous gynaecological symptoms and I don't know what on earth is going on with my body. I am feeling pretty hopeless at the moment. I have always had very painful periods but never ever had any symptoms during my cycle other than pre-menstrual tension a few days before AF, plus sore breasts and occasional cramps 3 or 4 days before AF.
I've set out my symptoms below over the past 7 months - this is the exact period that we have been TTC. Sorry if it's really long but hopefully someone will recognise what is going on!
First month:
5 days post ovulation (PO) - started getting intermittent cramps and slight nausea - lasted 4 days.
9 days PO - Strong cramps and felt just like I do when I have my period - dozy, sweaty, headachy.
Next day, no cramps but increasingly sore breasts until light cramps 4 days before my period on day 31 of my cycle. Normal (i.e.pretty painful) period.
2nd month:
relatively few symptoms post ovulation aside from usual pre-menstrual symptoms, sore boobs and light cramps a week before AF due.
AF was 2 days late so I did 2HPTs and both positive - was pregnant!
3 days later, strong cramps and bleeding and I miscarried
3rd month:
5-7 days PO very intermittent nausea and cramps
8 days PO - very bad cramping throughout the day
9-10 days PO - two days of constant and extreme cramping, extreme nausea, extreme low back pain going down into legs, and extremely sore breasts. I went to the doctor who said she thought I had a burst ovarian cyst. The pain was so bad (and frightening) during this time that I almost went to casualty.
11-12 days PO - symptoms abated - just intermittent cramping, back pain
12-15 days PO - fairly sore breasts and I got AF on 30th day of cycle
Fourth month:
5 days PO - nausea, cramping
8-9 days PO - very bad cramping , nausea and sore breasts all day. I went to the doctor again as it felt like I had another burst cyst and she referred me to a gynaecologist.
9-13 days PO - sore breasts and I got AF on 30th day of cycle
5th month:
Ovulation was very late (22nd day of cycle)
4-9 days PO - Occasional and prolonged cramping
10 days PO - Very bad cramping for 4 hours in evening
11-12 days PO - two days of very bad cramping, very bad lower back pain, nausea, sore breasts, and several prolonged hot flashes
13 days PO - next day slight cramping and nausea, very sore breasts
14-16 days PO occasional light cramps, very sore breasts
17 days PO - period was slightly late so I did a HPT which was positive (very faint line) but started bleeding on the same day and miscarried (if I was really pregnant) on 43rd day of cycle.
I went to the gynaecologist at this point with the list above. SHe first said, 'this is an infertility clinic. I don't know what you're doing here if you've managed to get pregnant.' I explained I had a gynaecology referral for the strange pain symptoms rather than infertility at this stage ( tho I feel like I am edging towards this with the two possible miscarriages/chemical pregnancies). She was basically really dismissive and said 'maybe you're just more attuned to your body because you'tre trying to get pregnant'. I said 'I can see how you might think that and I don't want to overstate things, but I really thought I might have to go to casualty at one point as the pain was so bad'. She wasn't impressed by this! After an internal exam, she basically said 'come back in 3 months if you still have the pain - it might be endometriosis but the only way you'd know for sure is to have a laparoscopy and that carries its own risks and 30% of people having one find nothing wrong'. And come back in 6 months if you don't get pregnant.
6th month - my husband and I decided to do a controlled experiment and NOT TTC (it also included my husband saying 'I feel like I am a hamster in a wheel - I think we need a break from TTC!').
Around ovulation day , for the first time, I had an evening of intense cramps and nausea. Then nothing until usual pre-menstrual symptoms before AF.
7th month - my husband had flu but we did manage to have sex once around ovulation (poor guy!). I again got severe cramps and nausea for half a day around this time. Next few days I developed incredibly sore breasts - really thought I was pregnant until I started to spot 13 days PO. Next day light cramps followed by very painful AF (early) on 27th day of my cycle.
To sum up, I just don't know what on earth is happening. If I have endometriosis, there are obvious implications for fertility. Or, I wonder if, by some miracle, I am actually getting pregnant every time time and these are intense implantation symptoms following by recurrent chemical pregnancies (which worries me). I also thought I might have ovarian cancer (you know how your mind works...!) though I had a clear ultrasound a couple of months ago so I think I must be ok as this is how they diagnose it.
I am 40 and feel like I need to know what I am dealing with rather than waiting 6 months to do any fertility tests.
Does anyone have any experience of this or have any advice for what I should do next as I don't want to waste the precious few months of any fertility I may have left!!!
I live in North London.
Thanks so much
StrawberryShore