this is just terribly sad - suicide following failed IVF

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here I just feel so sorry for this woman, and her husband - who must feel awful, even though his advice to her was the right advice. Poor poor people

that is really sad.

How sad and awful. Don't agree it was the right advice because of the outcome - although I'm supposing he couldn't have foreseen this.

Unbelievably sad.

The husband wasn't saying he'd never do ivf again, he just wanted her to sort her head out first, and go again when she was feeling stronger. I hope he doesn't feel too guilty, although I'm sure he's miserable the poor guy.

That's just awful but sadly I know from experience how low the longing for IVF can make you feel.

The absolute agony of infertility really is unappreciated by the majority of people who've never experienced it.

I really feel for her husband as he would have been going through hell too now he has to cope with this.

I wonder if she had counselling,we had it free at our private clinic and it really helped to keep our heads above the parapet. Everybody going through this should get it free.

yes in retrospect, clearly it wasn't the right advice - but I suspect cost was at the heart of this - there's no provision through state healthcare for fertility treatment in Ireland, so I imagine that this may have been an issue for them. But the poor woman - at 30 she should have had a good chance of a successful outcome.

I think anyone who thought that their wife or partner was depressed might suggest that going into the rigours of IVF immediately after a failed cycle might not be the best idea.

My dp forbid me from doing IVF again as I became seriously ill.

When you see a loved one going though physical and mental agony at a huge, damaging financial cost all for nothing,you do what you think is right.

I know, if she were 40, well, I can't finish the sentence.....

but at 30, she had time to try and get better.

I don't think he gave her the wrong advice, no matter what the outcome, if she was fragile enough to take her own life, then she wasn't strong enough for more IVF, and possibly, more failure. He gave her the right advice, it wasn't his fault. They probably didn't have counselling because I believe that that costs extra (!!) but if they had had counselling, professionals would have advised them to wait.