Lovely incendiary article on childcare

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I didn't find that incendiary at all. It is tough to be a working mother or a SAHM - no option is perfect and I think that's what the article said

I thought Rowan was a boy's name

not incendiary at all. merely stating the same stuff that has been argued about and debated on MN and in the meeja for decades

bit money for old rope, which i find far more offensive

limp and predictable article.trotting out cliché as if fact

seen better scraps on mn

whatever.
love our nanny, FWIW

some of the comments are bloody awful.

any mention of biddulph,you know its a ropy premise

nothing new in the article, but the comments below are pretty scary!

I mean the reason I thought it might have been marginally more interesting was that it was written by a man except it wasn't lol

even dh rolls his eyes at these now. We both work so he has as much interest in our childcare as I do. But you would swear by the media coverage that it is a women only issue!

Oh Rowan Pelling is another one of those maddeneningly smug middleclass journos with tunnel vision, who is percieved by other middleclass smuggos as a little bit 'dangerous' because she once edited The Erotic Review, possibly the dullest publication about sex you could possibly imagine.

What is it with this hysteria over the Mumsnet election? I see mention to this every week now and it's getting very annoying. Who's taking who so sriously?

She is irritating as are all of Torygraph women columnisits, all of whom, sadly, write froth,but Ican't disagree with this bit.

'The experts who tell us that our children's welfare will be better ensured by breastfeeding, family meals, bedtime stories and hands-on care are not being sanctimonious or finger-wagging. They're just telling it how it is, and in our heart of hearts we know they're right. Why else would we working mothers be so defensive and vitriolic? Why else would we keep shooting the messenger?'

I think many of the working mums whoa re defensive are because they ahve been forced into a corner by finances or whatever.

Otherwise, its easy to either make a 50-50 call and go part time, or say look, I realise there are benefits to (formula feeding / being a WOHM / eating togetehr ewtc) but on this one I need to make a me call for my own sanity

Which is totally fine

On teh breastfeeding threads the people who tend to get upset aren't those who were prepared to stand up and say yep I chose formula, but those who couldn't BF for some reason that is very valid.

Although personally I think the best thing is a mix- doesn't have to be paid work but people do need to get out soemtimes, even if just to the school tor ead with kids or to the gym. And if not working emans you lose your home well then working ahs to be the better option doesn't it?

There's no asnwer only different life experiences. An optimum is that all women can afford, want to and will not be adversely affetced career wise by taking time out as a SAHM but we all know thats so far from relaity as to be laughable.

And of couorse the SAHM one wants is one who wants to be there, and not one sat glued to MN wishing DP was home to put the tea on

Yep, blah blah blah di blah... Same old stuff, same old stuff citing same old "research".