Wayne Bridge retires from international football

[mayorquimby]

says he feels his position in the squad is untenable and divisive.
football365.com/story/0,17033,8682_5979809,00.html

Great .

John Terry and Ashley Cole can lord it up at the world cup.

disgusting. jonh terry should hvae been the one to go.

would he have even been chosen anyway?

I think it's ridiculous.

If that was his only paying job, you can bet your bottom dollar he would have hung around and sorted it out. But no, he's guaranteed a salary from Man City so he's not going to stay around to sort the England thing out.

How many people have done something stupid at work (like snogging someone when pissed) and then had to turn up the next day? Well people turn up because they have to be paid. I know it wasn't the same scenario but you know what I mean.

If Capello can't get them all to sit round a table and sort it out, then he's as much a child as the rest of them are tbh.

Of course he would have been chosen. He is 2nd choice after Ashley Cole who has an injury which may rule him completely out of South Africa.

I feel sad and sorry for Wayne Bridge to have had to make this decision when he is clearly not the one in the wrong.

I agree to a degree foxinsocks, but this isn't a drunken snog of a co-worker this is more akin to finding out that your co-worker (or maybe a slightly senior co-worker due to terrys former position as captain and his undeniable position as a more important team member) who you thought was a good friend of yours had been having an affair with your ex who was the mother/father of your child. Now how many people would choose to continue working with these people where there was a viable alternative? Bridge doesn't get anything from playing for england and most likely decided that he didn't need the experience of playing alongside terry in upcoming friendlies only to sit on the bench for the 3 or so weeks England will spend at the WC when cole returns from injury.
I agreed with the decision to strip terry of the captaincy and think that went far enough. This is Bridges personal decision and he has to live with it.

plus this adds a nice bit of bite to the chelsea v city game this wkend

I don't get the argument that seems to imply he thinks he has ownership of her which I've heard repeatedly suggested. He's stayed fairly quiet over the whole incident.
If a woman posted on here that she found out someone who purported to be a very close friend of hers had in fact been having a secret affair on their husband with her ex and father of her child, i think most would think her justified in wanting nothing to dow ith that woman again. I wouldn't claim that she was trying to exert some ownership over her ex or dictating his life.I'd say she felt rightly betrayed by her supposed friend.

I honestly can't understand people who can't see why he is upset. He had a long-term, serious relationship with this woman, she is the mother of his child. Of course he is going to be upset that his close friend and team mate had an affair with her.

He is not saying that he owns her but surely your close friends/team mates current or ex-partner is out of bounds?

Honestly Lenin? I don't know what your circumstances are but are you saying that if you and your DH/DP split if would be ok for him to hook up with one of your friends and you wouldn't be upset about it?

It's not dictating who your ex sees, it's expecting your friends to not see them after you've been involved in a serious relationship. I've seen no evidence of him telling his ex who she can see or being pissed off with her, but i think he has every right to be pissed off with a supposed best mate.
Fair enough if it wouldn't annoy you at all leningrad, but if I broke up with a long time ex and my mate was secretly hooking up with her as his bit on the side I'd be seriously pissed off. it might be different if a friend came to me and said something like "me and x have feelings for each other and are going to start seeing each other, but i wanted to be up front and for you to hear it from me. etc." it might be different at least their showing you some respect. but to go behind your back just shows that he obviously doesn't give a shit about the friendship.

at least they're

That's fair enough. But you aren't doing anything to anyone. You have an expectation of a friend but not control over them. There's nothing you can do, you are only responsible for your own actions. In this case Wayne Bridge has decided to withdraw himself from the english squad, that's his choice, he's not dictating who anyone can or can't see. In a more common situation the likely response is that the person would choose to discontinue the friendship which happens a lot.

I honestly don't see it as dictating who people can and can't see, i just think for the most part people would not want anything to do with a supposed friend who would do this to them.

I get what you are saying but is more do with the betrayal of his friend isnt't it? He has never said he is upset with his ex. only with John Terry.

And the fact that JT already has a wife and children means it would always be a mess. They obviously sneaked around behind other peoples backs so its a completely different situation to your own. JT obviously didn't want it to get out because he knew of the upset and hurt it would cause to his 'friend' and family.

but it's not a right of veto, i don't think anyone thinks that they can veto a relationship. But they can choose to have nothing to do with the person.

i totally understand why hes taken this step,

in an international team like this they can be a tight knit group, have trust for each other as with all other sports.

they need to have respect for each other also, to be able to play as a team. rivalrys, dis-trust and anger towards each other can cause a number of problems.

john terry had lied, snuck around behind everyones back and had total dis-reguard to his family, team mates and friends,

theres alot of cheating going on in football at the moment but john terry really did s**t on his own doorstep and i really understand why wayne feels he cannot work with him and has taken the only step to ensure that we have a united team going to south africa,

it is very sad, and i really feel for him.