free in the Guardian on Saturday and today. I'm still in shock. The pathetic look that we should use at the disco to bring out the protective instincts in boys; and the story today of the deeply misguided Mrs Ponsonby who wanted to turn her little girl into a boy. on the one hand it's no wonder that I felt deeply inadequate for not having a boyfriend aged 12 but on the other hand I guess I turned out ok in the end...