I thought assisted suicide was OK until I read this diary of the son of a terminally ill woman who decided to take her life in The Guardian www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2008/aug/23/euthanasia.cancer
The part at which she formalises the agreement I quote below. I found it terrifying in its efficiency. I also really felt that she never had the support of any women in her decision-making and she couldn't bring herself to say the words herself - her son had to. (the second doctor was also a bloke). She was a strong women who was used to the men around her doing what they were told. She was nervous about the suicide, and admitted so herself - I just couldn't help but wonder why they let her do it - I wasn't convinced of her own conviction. I should also add though that I read this not long after the sudden death of my father and the woman looks vaguely similar to my mum, so I am not sure I read it objectively, but I was just so saddened by it. Even if she was going to die anyway, it just seemed so brutal and she still had some quality of life. I think she felt she should do it this way, to be less trouble, and thats what worries me about legalising assisted suicide. People will come under pressure, whether by themselves or by others, to end their lives prematurely.
^The doctor says euthanasia can take place next week. Another doctor first needs to verify, though, that Mum cannot be cured, that her wish to die has been consistent, and that her suffering is unbearable.
Martin is convinced of the first two conditions but not of the third. If Mum is too energetic to stay in bed, then how is her suffering unbearable?
Mum puts her coffee down. "Well, I have to die anyway, don't I?" Then she asks us what we think.
I interrupt: "It should be your own decision. None of us is to say anything."
But Mum struggles to say she wants to die. Eventually I say, "I think what she finds unbearable is not so much her pain and sickness, but the fear of it getting worse and of losing control."
When Martin is finally satisfied that Mum wants to end it, he agrees to contact the second doctor. He leaves with an empathetic nod to us all.^