hmm, not too keen on the article and they way it was written, too mcu of a sweeping generalisation IMO. I had an incredibly stressful pg with dd and she's very reactive and emotional I do worry that it may have been my fault, but the way the column is written is just going to contribute to the ever increasing barrage of information aimed at making parents feel guilty.
I'm currently pg with number 2 and have suffered a fair amount of stress this time round too, work has been far from helpful, and in fact has been the main cause of stress. I do agree with him on that score, as a working woman you should have more rights and better conditions at work, longer maternity entitlement and more opportunities for flexible working/working from home and other options.
I'm very interested in maternal mental health issues from a personal and professional perspective. Maternal mental well-being needs to become a goverment priority to prevent generations of attchment and behavioural difficulties being repeated in the same old ugly cycle again and again.
I work in CAMHS, most of our referrals are for ADHD/behaviour. Some are "pure" intrinsic ADHD, i.e. no obvious attachment/parenting/social issues but a very lively inattentive and distractible child intervention ADHD specific parenting course and meds if they want it.. Some are more complex and may receive a more muti-systemic intervention e.g. family therapy, individual therapy for the parent(s) e.g. if Mum has a horrendous attachment history of her own and meds if they want them. Some are not ADHD and NICE guidelines stipulate a Webster-Stratton parenting course as a first line intervention, but not meds, often not received very well TBH.
For some children being on meds transforms their school life (for the better) and re establishes their rock bottom self-esteem surely not a bad thing? Some parents too, choose to only give it on school days as they can cope with their exuberance at the weekend!
As for psychotherapy, what a lot of these proponents of counselling and psychotherapy for children don't seem to understand is that you have to want it for it to work! And most kids who come to our service for ADHD don't "want to talk" it distresses the hell out of them, trying to force it. Positive activities and play maybe but not "counselling". families have to want, beleive in and be ready for family therapy too. This panacea of "psychotherapy" isn't a cure all and really doesn't suit everyone and people like this person stipultaing that it should just be implemented in place of meds is far from helpful.