Another British woman arrested in Dubai

[MichelleObama]

Nice

How awful! Whilst I am not condoning her actions I am shocked at her husband taking this action!

Yes, he can hardly claim it's his normal cultural practice can he, it's just vindictiveness.

If you're a woman don't go to muslim countries. If a strange man asks you to marry him and come back to live with his family the correct reaction is to run away fast.

Maybe we should be teaching this in schools.

Yes, but Onagar, the husband was also English.

Yeah just realised that, but still any woman about to fly to Dubai (or similar places) should have to sign a declaration "I am a woman and am entering a country that treats women like shit, but I want to go anyway"

They moved out together but the law still applies, also she flew her lover out to be with her... not the best behaviour really (although prison may be a bit steep by our standards).

It will be interesting to see how this case progresses as it will show how the authorities react to having their laws used for revenge and how they are applied to a situation where non of the parties are native IYSWIM.

I would love to be around when he is explaining to his children where their mum is and why!

They are 11 and 13, I can't imagine how they will cope with their Dad getting their mum put in jail so he can have custody of them.

I have a feeling they won't be told the truth don't you?

I mean, it is likely to be "Mum did something so bad the police have had to put her in prison so you are staying with me, I will protect you from her" not "Mum did something I didn't like so i called police and had her locked up and now, just to really finish her off you will not ba allowed to see her until you are 18".

"I have a feeling they won't be told the truth don't you?"

hmm - 11 and 13, MORE than old enough to read a paper or read online what has happened.......

Will it make the papers over there? I agree though, even if they don't know straight away they will know eventually.

And when the children do something and he doesn't approve - is he going to tattle run off to the Dubai authorities and report them?

My advice for those kids would be to RUN!!!

maybe not the papers - but I bet they'll read it online.

Mine don't read online papers, do others? Mind you I suppose mine don't have a good reason to read online papers. I should think if I disappeared it might ocur to them to have a look.

Also, KC, their friends will mention it surely? Their friends' parents are likely to be talking about it to them.

I don't know, with something like this being so frowned upon, will people talk about it?

Also, I assume, the first thing he is going to do is move the children so mum can't get to them.

I am sure the children are well aware of the sentiment between their parents. Family members always talk ....

Well,

She admits having an affair, unlike the other recent case

She had been living in Dubai for a decade so presumably was very well aware of their laws about adultery.

She chose to fly her lover out to Dubai to join her and then spent 6 days holed up in a hotel bedroom with him.

We might not like the laws in Dubai with very good reason but that doesn't mean we can disregard them or expect special treatment. She committed an offence under local law, almost certainly knowing it was against the law, and has admitted doing so. For what it's worth, I presume that she'll serve at worst a couple of months or more likely be deported and the custody battle will resolved in the British courts.

In terms of her DH's actions 'tis interesting the responses on here. Personally I think it is clearly beyond the pale, but people are often stupid, malicious and vindictive in these situations. Where there have been other threads about adultery on here regarding men who've had affairs, there have been many responses suggesting worse than reporting their partner for breaking the law.

Can they actually try her under islamic law if neither party is a Muslim?

She needs to get herself a very good lawyer and a lot of publicity.

This is really dangerous, I can just imagine the queue of pissed of husbands moving to Dubia to begin divorce proceedings!

Are you mad, Cestlavie? I don't think it is remotely common on here to suggest to wronged spouses that they are entitled to pursue vindictive courses of action such as attemptin to get their co-parent locked up for adultery so that they can ensure custody of the children. Or anything vaguely equivalent.

Cestlavie, there are always "bang his bits with a pair of bricks" type responses, however, those are a joke. Used only to lighten the mood a little because we are reasonably sure that the op will not actually do it.

I am not sure what other responses you have seem that are worse than having someone arrested, sentanced and having their children removed from them for life?

WOW what a vindictive bastard that husband is!
The kids are old enough to understand, so not only has he punished his wife but also his kids.

I'm afraid I kind of support cestlavie here. She has been living there for a decade, she does know the laws of the country, so knows what could happen if she flouts them. How stupid do you have to be to fly your lover to a country that locks people up for adultery and hole up with him for a few days. If she was that desperate to see him surely she should have flown to him, not the other way round. She also has 2 children but clearly wasn't thinking about the consequences for them if she was caught.

I don't agree with what her husband did one iota... but come on, seriously, did she really think she was going to be able to get away with this?

As I mentioned, they are no longer living in the country so clearly custody is going to be decided by the British courts, right? Not the Dubai courts.

KingCanute: you're probably right that most of these are jokes (althought not always) and perhaps I'm guilty of exaggerating for effect. But I do think if it had been a guy who'd been having a long term affair and done something with the other woman which he knww would have directly resulted in him going to jail for a short time if caught, there'd have been a little less sympathy for him.

A year is not a short time in the lives of her children Cestlavie. And, in any case, I do not believe for a second a poster on MN who admitted having shopped her husband to police like that would get sympathy. I have seen many posts on here trying to help deeply wounded women on here deal with the fact that regardless of her ex's infidelity, they need to keep their personal feelings out of access arrangements.