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Man sentenced for attempting to procure prostitute for his son

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SomeGuy · 15/05/2009 15:48

"A father who asked an undercover police officer posing as a prostitute to take his 14-year-old son's virginity has been given a suspended prison sentence.

The man from Bulwell, Nottingham, who cannot be named for legal reasons, was given a 10-month suspended jail term.

The man drove up to the undercover officer and asked her how much she would charge for sex with his son, who was sitting next to him in the car.

Judge Jonathan Teare said he was not sending the father to prison because of his previous excellent character and that he believed he did not mean any harm to his son.

"You have a duty of care to your son and that is to look after his moral welfare not, as you might think, to break him into the ways of sex through a prostitute."

Mr Smith added that the boy would be allowed to continue to live with his father.

The defendant will be placed on the sex offenders register for five years. "

Poor lad, must have been a big let down for him, thought he was going to have a shag and ended up with Dad getting arrested instead.

I'm assuming from the wording that he's a single father.

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SomeGuy · 15/05/2009 15:49

sorry link: news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/nottinghamshire/8052090.stm

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LeninGrad · 15/05/2009 15:51

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AMumInScotland · 15/05/2009 15:55

If the boy hasn't got the maturity to approach a woman himself in an attempt to get laid, why on earth did his father think he needed to lose his virginity?

I accept that people mature at different ages, and some 14yo are more like 16 (and vice versa), but surely the ones who mature early will also be the ones taking steps themselves?

LaurieFairyCake · 15/05/2009 16:03

It's procuring sex for a minor and is absolutely abhorrent.

And no different to a father doing it for his daughter. I can't imagine what people would say if he'd got one of his mates to 'break in' his 14 year old if it was a girl.

Hulababy · 15/05/2009 16:07

If this was a dad approaching a (male) prostitute about having sex with his 14y daughter so she could lose her virginity then there would be uproar.

Just because the child is a boy shold make no difference.

Poor boy indeed. But not because he didn't get to have sex that night. But because of the so called father he has.

Greensneeze · 15/05/2009 16:08

He should have gone to prison IMO

HerBeatitudeLittleBella · 15/05/2009 16:11

I wonder where his mother is and if she is alive, what she thinks of this?

What a repellent man. But how inadequate that he has been given a suspended prison sentence. He needs to be sent on a parenting course and some counselling to sort out his attitude to women, which must be influencing his son's attitude as well.

twopeople · 15/05/2009 16:13

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HerBeatitudeLittleBella · 15/05/2009 16:18

There doesn't seem to be the concept of not corrupting children any more, does there.

I suppose the fact that the boy is 14 is why this man is being accepted as a suitable custodial guardian for him.

smallwhitecat · 15/05/2009 16:18

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sfxmum · 15/05/2009 16:21

or how to teach your son to respect women,
and their right to say no,
and not be seen as commodities
well done daddy

LeninGrad · 15/05/2009 16:24

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onagar · 15/05/2009 16:26

The guy is wrong on many levels, but the sentence reflects that:

#1 No underage sex took place.
#2 The intent (though misguided) was not to do harm.

TheCrackFox · 15/05/2009 16:42

The kind of dad that goes to such lengths for his son to pop his cherry is the same kind of dad that wouldn't let his daughter start dating until she is 40.

skidoodle · 15/05/2009 16:48

The intent was not to do harm?

So if I think it's OK for my fourteen year old child to get pissed, is there no intent to do harm if I buy her a litre of vodka?

Can you just define harm yourself and then do whatever the fuck you want?

SoupDragon · 15/05/2009 17:37

I think what the father did was shocking but I'm surprised he's been put on the sex offender's list for this.

SoupDragon · 15/05/2009 17:38

a litre of vodka could kill your 14 year old.

onagar · 15/05/2009 19:03

Skidoodle, I expect someone could come up with a current culture and laws where his behaviour was perfectly acceptable. Many have rites of passage which can be sexual or dangerous.

He broke our current law so he had to go to court, but the reason we have courts and judges is to distinguish between one crime and another. What he did was not the same as if he had gone looking for a 14yo prostitute for himself.

Since you mention alcohol and not to say they are directly comparable, but in France they give wine to young children.

skidoodle · 15/05/2009 19:15

Syphilis could kill your 14 year old.

I'm not surprised he's been put on the sex offenders' register. He was trying to pay a woman to rape his son.

onagar there are current cultures where it is acceptable to murder women who have been raped for family "honour".

Cultural acceptability doesn't confer any kind of moral rectitude.

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